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You Smell Good: Is sniffing an act of adultery?

Started by Daniel Gibbons · 9 months ago

He smells good. This scruffy boy-man sitting at our kitchen table. He dares to tell me he smells good.
It must be like the moment when a father sees his guileless pubescent daughter sport a bikini for the first time and he realizes, “Oh my God, when did she sprout breasts? She ... Continue reading »

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  • I love it. Totally transports me....
  • I will always remember the smell of the first guy I fell in love with. Eternity for Men and books. I wrote several poems about how his scent tantalized me, bound me, wrapped me up in sensual goodness. *sigh*
  • A man... that smells... like books. Oh, heaven.
  • I can't help but laugh because I have always been sensitive to smell but never really thought about it until I just read your essay. My husband is the only man I ever dated who smelled like a purely sexy manly-man to me. He wears Green Irish Tweed cologne from a company called Creed now and it pumps up his naturally good smell exponentially. It nearly floors me. Sometimes I like to wear it when he's out of town.
  • Brilliant...
    Mid 80's - Polo, and hockey hair
    Late 80's - Men's obsession and that chevy hatchback smell
    Early 90's - 2nd hand bookstores, wet wool, and good soap and good coffee
    Entire New millennium - woodsmoke and butter
    yum
  • thank you for sharing your scents with me...all of you. I'm all hot and bothered now...women, you're fabulous.
  • Hmmm, I can absolutely still close my eyes and smell that smell of teenage angst for that I-Rock driving, long hair, tan skin...oh excuse me...I got a little carried away. Love this topic. I used to try and buy my boyfriends a particular smell that just did it for me. If only I could remember the name, and if only my husband wore cologne, and if only it came in a natural version for men.

    Now...I'm off to sniff and smell some more.
  • How DO you manage to be so hilariously funny, AND so sweet & human at the same time!?!?? I actually BARKED, the laugh was so sudden when reading... garnering me a look of "what ARE you on about?!?" from my old-spice and just-rained smelling lover. Which was nice, since I'm now inspired to lean over and sniff... and think 'good thing I married him!'
  • lovely - sexy... an this coming from a nun.
  • Fantastic writing!
    Wonderful.
    Pam
  • My response to this article is a series of heart felt sounds, sighs, giggles,outright laughter, sniffs, Abrupt inhalations and exhalations, and a tear of two (good ones). I felt every word you wrote.
    Have you considered the other senses? I would by the book
    Love and joy to you
  • the other senses...one at a time...this one nearly blew my head off, haha! Seriously now, thank you so much Jennifer for writing in, I'm thrilled you enjoyed it and moved with it, and thank you all you sensual women for writing in. xo
  • OK I now have to 'fess up. I have a good memory for faces and after I had read Is sniffing an act of adultery? I was drifting thru the SS book on a rainy Sunday and made the connection (you look way better with a fringe by the way). googled.
    I almost wish I hadn't. Being from NZ your name was not on my radar as an anything........ other than storyteller.
    How very Holy and Courageous to write the way you do as a Christian. It is like a breath of fresh air. Most of the worthwhile reading I have done that has grown my faith has been just off the edge of the radar. It grows good strong "Faith Muscles" to have ones beliefs challenged and exercised. I am going to buy copies of your plays just for the sheer pleasure of reading them.
    Maybe I will see them on stage one day.
    In the 1960s when professional theatre was in its infancy in NZ I used to wander into the city in bare feet, jeans and a duffel coat (teenage angst and a good antidote to a student nurses uniform 6 days a week for 3 years) to go to plays at one of NZs first professional theatres.
  • Dear Jennifersage - I was thrilled and honored to get your email. Thank you for taking the time to write. I've actually had one of my plays produced in NZ a long time ago - a comedy called Chickens - but would love to do one of my more modern scripts there. (a country that actually supports its artists and has a thriving arts scene - or at least that's what the Canucks think here - our arts community has a crush on NZ and Australia)

    Thank you for the validating things you had to say about being a Christian and an artist. I find the more personal and honest I get about where I'm at - the more people from all walks of life grab onto the work and say, "oh my goodness, that's just like me, I've wondered that too - I thought I was the only one who thought that - I wrestle with that too - I love that too" Ironically, the more personal I get, the more universal it is. So I am thinking it's worth the risk - exposing myself as a bit of a "clown for Christ" as Peter Barnes would say (Red Noses - great play about faith). Doing the best I can. I feel very honored to write...God is so good. God is good to reveal Grace to a goof like me who's trying to figure it out one step at a time.

    Are you still a nurse? Do you still attend the theatre?

    Thank you again and bless you.

    Sincerely, Lucia

    PS yeah, my pic in SS is so awful, haha! I agree, I shall never wear my hair like that again. Especially not now that I have my style statement!
  • What a fabulous read, I can count my entire romantic history by scents. I am working on a short story about stepping onto the streetcar and smelling an ex-lover, but being unable to place it exactly. That's powerful stuff.

    I hate how much of that powerful stuff is caked over with synthetic sprays and crap.

    We are all like wine, aren't we?
  • like wine, I love that, Danette! xo L
  • Who would have thought that words could evoke a smell, even a taste sometimes! Your words are like good food. You take a sample and before you know it, you've devoured the whole serving and want more! Thank you for the laugh and the "I feel your confusion over the arousal of the senses - wrong, so wrong, but yet so gooooooood (dark side there)."
  • I have a dear friend I consider a virtuous and spiritual wholesome loving wife and mother...and she told me this week "men unabashedly ogle women from the moment they're born to the day they die. We are allowed to look too." It's simply appreciation and...a rather safe outlet for that curiosity - I say "Amen sister".
  • This is how I put this
    God made man (and lets be honest he did a pretty smoking hot job in every way). He paused and then looked at the other members of the Trinity
    The thought was there and the words were spoken " I believe we can do better .......and that when he made women" Who can blame men for ogling.

    He saved the best until last!!!!!!!!!!
  • Ha ha ha! Another one. brilliant! Mike smells like Candy and leather. Kind of like Mom's purse, actually if one were to think about it.....Goodness, Freud would have a heyday with that one. Corralee.
  • oh my God, that made me laugh my ars off!
  • comfort to confirm my all time favorite smell,
    hands down, is the man I married. As it should be.
  • M'god, that pheromonic response, what a beautiful power. Nicely written ... thank you.
  • Thank you - and GREAT word!
  • Mmmmm. Wow. Fun article and fun comments. I met my husband when we were both 14. His parents own a lawnmower shop. He also smelled like gasoline and exhaust. I loved it.
    He still works in a shop, and he still walks in the door smelling like gasoline and I still love it. Only now it's okay to jump on him... :)
    (His after-shower and/or day-off smell is gasoline-free; it's like fresh-cut wood and your favorite soft blanket. Mmmmmmm. I wish he would get home already...)
  • how lovely, soft blanket and fresh cut wood...I'm all gushy now...
  • Oh, wonderful essay! I think this is the first time I've seen body scent discussed in such detail, and in a positive manner.

    My girlfriend and I both recognize the power of scent in human interaction. Neither of us wear deodorant—we shower to stay clean and remove negative smells (e.g. flop-sweat, skunks, second-hand smoke), not to remove our natural scents.

    What I've come to realize is that natural scents bother me much less than what I call "industrial" scents. I can't stand most perfumes, colognes, deodorants, plastics, and sprays.

    I think scent is one of the most under-appreciated senses. Everyone *knows*, at some level, that it's important. But it's not explicitly part of the culture.
  • thank you, Tim, you're right, now that I pay attention to the natural more, the artificial is repugnant. The more I pay attention to the "animal" I am and others are, the more grounded I become, the more in-tune, the more passionate and alive. Thank you for writing - cheers, L
  • I may be a little extreme with my love of a womans scent. I must have a scent fetish? Definetely I have a foot fetish!
    I love her with no deodorant on so that I can suck her armpits! And her sweatty feet, OH MY GOD, yes i love them in my face and in my mouth!
    Delicious!
  • What a good article. Body scent is the basic of attraction.
  • A man's natural scent, especially that of an aromatic love-juice type of sweaty appeal is so captivating. Just like the scent of my man whenever we go lovemaking in a wet and wild fun manner. Ooooh!
  • LOL!!! other people have sensitive sense of smell. Well maybe because of their genes.

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