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When do you hide?

Started by Daniel Gibbons · 9 ヶ月 ago

You can run, and you *can* hide…

Carrie says: When I’m not up for small talk. I duck around the corner at the grocery store if I see someone who I know but I am too tired to chat. Yes, I admit it.
 

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  • Jody

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I am feeling vulnerable. Sometimes I just know that the vulnerability I am feeling isn't justified but is a subconscios way of telling me I need some me time.
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  • Beth C.

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I am tired and when I'm just plain overwhelmed by the combination of family, work and volunteer commitments that I have made. Since I was about 14, I have needed a balance between periods in which I am committed to doing more than one could possibly get done in a day mixed with periods in which I have absolutely no commitments.
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  • Jennifer Sage

    10 ヶ月 ago

    The time I am most likely to "hide" is if there is pressure on me to do some obligation type duty at work.(like an extra days work.) My best contribution is creative and spontaneous and it can be genuine and generous.
    I'm not at my best bowing to pressure. Mostly I just walk from that (and hide).
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  • Mellie

    10 ヶ月 ago

    It's not so much much a matter of feeling a need to hide, but more a need to seek. Peace and solitude are vital for me to feel grounded and have the time to sort and sift through my thoughts and feelings. i seek geting in touch with myself by being on my own ( cat for company is ok though!) preferably away from all people, but a yoga class or just sitting in silence with my partner will do the trick too. There is so much noise and distraction in our lives that unless I can take this time out , I feel totally overwhelmed and exhausted. I now set my limits with work and people which has given me more contentment and a sense of being much more comfortabble in my own skin. By the way I love this website, it's become a part of my "seeking" what I need.
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  • Angela

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I come home from work. I need about and hour to an hour and a half by myself to decompress and clear out the noise in my head before I can be social again.
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  • Vix

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When i need to put my fingers in own sockets and re-energise mentally, physically, spiritually - I am fortunate to live alone so its easy to get away from friends and family, demands and things to do. I come out again feeling guilt free, a smile on face and energy to handle the next fun i dreamed of. I call it my duvet days and the are bliss!!!
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  • Ella

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I know I need to connect to the quiet part of myself. Really, though, what I'm working on is not hiding. Coming out when I know I need to connect to others, finding someone to talk to, going outside to see who I come across. Not hiding within a group when I feel disconnected (by that I mean not tuning out).
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  • Beccie

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When there is confrontation. I am not good at confrontation at all! I know I should stand in there and speak my mind, but it seems that when I do, I am the one who ends up hurt. I am a very sensitive person. An area I've tried to change, but I've learned I don't want to change that part of me. It is a big part of what makes Me, ME. Hiding sounds like a bad thing. I think others who speak their minds too freely, should try it.
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  • Pam

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I'm hurt, whether its a person or a situation that has affected me and taken away my strength or confidence I take the time to hide, heal and build myself back up until I'm ready to stand as a strong and confident person again. I think its my way of not showing weakness? Not sure if this a good thing or not.
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  • SRead

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I usually refer to this as "retreating", and I need to do it when I am overwhelmed, exhausted or disappointed. If I need to collect my thoughts and heal I seek solitude, but if I just need to change my frame of mind and re-energize I can "hide" in a crowd.
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  • Kate

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide from my kids when I need 10 minutes on the phone with a friend!!!
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  • Girl-Woman

    10 ヶ月 ago

    First of all, Carrie, I have done the duck-behind-the-corner in the grocery store, too.

    Sometimes I hide in plain site. In a large group of women, such as a book club discussion that goes awry, if I'm "chat-deprived" and just can't focus on their problems, I hide in plain site: I don't make eye contact, I study the handout for the book, I scrunch down in the chair. My body language says, "Chatted out."
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  • Shelly

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I'm having a bad image day. When I feel disconnected from the universe and alone but unable to reach out. I'm trying to work on reaching out in those moments but it can be hard.
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  • Xai Vicente Charles

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Oh my it seems as if Carrie and I go through the same thing. When I am not in a mood for small talk I run. I will cross the street, leave the supermarket, not answer the phone. My other one is when I am completely broke. I just lay low.
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  • Wazzy

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when the world seems out to get me and I just need to gather myself up and get away from it all. I hide when I feel like any external forces that alter my day will only complicate things. The funny thing is, the people that are my BEST friends are the ones who dare to come into my "hiding" world and draw me out. At first I am annoyed at them for it and later I thank them for it.
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  • Joannie

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I'm hurting deeply and it's too soon to talk about it or the person I'm with is the person who hurt me or isn't the person I want to share myself with or I don't want to talk to anyone about it except God.

    I don't answer the phone if the person calling is a chatterbox and I'm not up to chatter. Caller ID is wonderful.

    When I need help and know that my need will not be met but will be seen as a want and therefore not important or selfish. This is unique only to my husband.

    With Beccie I'm very sensitive, some would say too sensitive. However, it's who I am and I believe it's what makes me tolerant, compassionate and loving. It's like my honesty which can make me naive. But, hey, I'd rather be naive and honest than a liar.
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  • Karen

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Me too!! Decompress is the pefect word.
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  • Traci

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I'm broke, too. It's the best way to avoid spending!
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  • Traci

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I'm overwhelmed and scared and honestly just need to bunker down until whatever is overwhelming or scary goes away or quiets down.
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  • Kristin (The Goat)

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Exactly. You put words to what I was thinking! I do that same thing.
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  • Kristin (The Goat)

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I used to hide all the time. When I was a smoker (and no one really knew it) I would hide in my car, around corners, behind newspapers anywhere where I could have a smoke and not have anyone see me. Now that I have been smoke free for over a year I still find myself seeking out those places but then I realize I don't need them.
    I now live in a 5 story condo - I tell people that it's called "Forced Socialization" - unless I stop leaving the house, I have to see people and can't hide.
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  • Kirsty

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I too love call display :)
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  • Brenda

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I'm in serious need of 'me-time'.
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  • JoeM

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I generally hide Easter Eggs.
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  • weezie

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Since my 2nd word is "harmony", it's no wonder that I, too, run from confrontation.
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  • MoJo

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I cannot tell you how absolutely happy I am to see these responses!! Which sounds strange, but let me qualify: I'm a professional hider, and up until now I honestly thought it was some kind of strange, introvert characteristic that I had elevated to an art. Now I see that I'm not alone - in hiding, well, you know what I mean. I actually used to hang out in closets/cubby holes when I was a kid (yes, my shrink had fun with that one.) I hide for many of the reasons you all state here - basically because I crave solitude like air or water - to reflect, to shed, to heal, to process, to reconnect with myself, to think, to be...

    I think of it as a gift to myself - the final word on where/when/how my energy is spent and recharged. Thanks for this...
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  • MoJo

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Thanks Joe - you gave me the first good belly laugh of the day! :-)
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  • Diane

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I'm worried about something. I'll lock myself away in my studio "being creative" when I don't feel like dealing with some pressing issue. When I'm in my craft studio creating, it helps me to come up with solutions to whatever it is I'm worried about.
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  • Ellen

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I'm in a large group of people. I intuitively connect with other humans and if I connect with everyone in a group, my energy is depleted in a flash. At my own wedding reception, all I wanted to do was get a plate of food and a drink and go sit in the corner with my best friend.
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  • Cecile

    10 ヶ月 ago

    BONJOUR MES AMIS!! Hope you all had a restful night!

    Ahhhh the hiding skill.... It is a skill, I think... I like to become invisible, or blend in with the landscape when I am tired, because I invariably will open mouth, insert foot... I have no patience to explain things, I perceive the world as a giant conspiracy to annoy me and totally disregard my feelings, needs, and point of view, while the world goes about its business minding what is best for it. (World translates into my family, co-workers, and friends.)

    So I disappear, run, vanish... until I have had a chance to rest and my reserves are replenished...

    I have to be careful. I still am working on setting boundaries without losing my cool, because I try to do something nice for someone and if I perceive that I am being taken advantage of, I rebel, and then I am not so nice. So that is part of a skill set I need to hone... If anyone has suggestions, ideas, comments, please chime in!!!

    Bisous,

    Cécile
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  • Amy Guth

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I also hide out from small talk, but sometimes it's okay from positive people that I just don't happen to know all that well. It's the negative people I really dodge. I hide from them.
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  • Carrie McCarthy

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I like seeking and I especially like that we are part of your life. Thanks Mellie. (great name)
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  • Vanessa Rae

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I'm overwhelmed. I'll take a long walk and talk to myself, talk with God and count my blessings. And then there are times when hide and go to the movies. A lot of people give me a weird look when I say I go to the movies by myself but I thoroughly enjoy it. And if it's been one of "those" days, I'll slide over to Barnes and Noble and hide myself between the shelves.
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  • Carrie McCarthy

    10 ヶ月 ago

    May I borrow duvet days? Love it!
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  • misspenny

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide me on the weekends.. I have a stressful, never ending job that follows me every where.. so on the weekends I hide from people, situations, social gatherings, laundry, everything. I recharge. I nap, I read, I watch t.v., walk the dogs, sleep.. I give myself what I need and want. I don't commit to any thing because I know that after a 70 hour work week, I need silence. It's one of the few times I have learned to say NO. I say No for me..
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  • Carrie McCarthy

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I am with you Vanessa, I love going to movies by myself.
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  • Emily Cline

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Hello, can you say PMS???!!!
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  • Lynda

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I don't feel like making small talk.....I can't stand small talk!! There aren't enough hours in a day to get the things done that I want to do.....small talk just doesn't do it for me:-)
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  • Kate

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I definitely need a few minutes when I get home from work. By this time my husband has already been off for a few hours and could talk a mile a minute. I love and appreciate that he is so excited to see me, so we decided that whenever I need some quiet time I just say "Can I just have a few minutes please". This way he knows I am interested and would love to hear all about it, but that I need that time to unwind before I can properly focus attention on him.
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  • Karen

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I think answering an email, voicemail or phonecall will be awkward. I have gotten over the ill filling I get from having a difficult face to face conversation, but I still stall when it comes to the other forms of conversation.
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  • katieh

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when the alternative is an argument with someone I can't handle - when speaking up will only makes things worse, when someone has worked out what buttons to push to leave me a mess.

    i'm grateful that i have enough sense of self preservation that i married someone who i *can* disagree with healthily. Other people I try to spot and avoid.
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  • kim

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide from door to door salespeople and religious groups.
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  • Ngonzi Truth Crushshon

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I don't want to say what needs to be said. I hide when I'm scared to say things that may hurt other people's feelings. I hide when I want to be alone. I hide when I have my personal devotions. I hide when I'm confused/overwhelmed and need spiritual power & a touch/WORD from God!
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  • Traci

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Today I'm hiding at work. I'm overwhelmed by the boredome. Sad.
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  • Danielle LaPorte

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Call display = CENTER OF MY UNIVERSE.
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  • Danielle LaPorte

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Monks and nuns are in constant hiding. No one's on their case about it!
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  • Lindsey

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Mellie,

    Soul sister, I've done the same thing: put limits on my work and people in my life, even though the people often take it personally. It's tough, but, wow, since I started doing it, my life has been transformed! Have you heard of the Highly Sensitive Person, as defined by phsychologist Elaine N. Aron? She's got a couple great books out there for people who need peace and solituted to not feel overwhelmend. www.hsperson.com.

    Namaste
    www.joyyoga.ca
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  • Danielle LaPorte

    10 ヶ月 ago

    one of my favourite bits from Women Who Run With The Wolves is a story about an artist who would "lock herself in her studio." She had a sign on the lane leading up to her studio that said, "I don't care if you're Christ coming down to talk to me - turn around and go away." Gotta have boundaries to give the solutions space.
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  • Susie Hutchinson

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide with when cash flow issues appear in my business, I become paralyzed and cant do anything, so I just turn off the computer and go for a walk. Then when I've talked myself down, I turn the computer back on, and start collecting.
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  • Susie Hutchinson

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when cash flow issues appear in my business, I become paralyzed and cant do anything, so I just turn off the computer and go for a walk. Then when I've talked myself down, I turn the computer back on, and start collecting.
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  • Danielle LaPorte

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I bet there are a gazillion brides who can relate!
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  • Danielle LaPorte

    10 ヶ月 ago

    you could just answer the door naked - that usually ends any kind of sales pitch.
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  • jennb

    10 ヶ月 ago

    i think i hide when im overwelemed or feeling sorry for myself. i hide away and have my own little pity party and then im ok.
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  • Rushmi

    10 ヶ月 ago

    The funniest time I have ever gone in to hiding was from my own family. It was a sunday morning, everyone got up way too early (I love to wake up 1 hour before my family so I have my time.) Well, on this particular sunday, everyone woke up early and started asking me to do things - I was in no mood to respond. I grabbed my tea and magazine, went to my ensuite - and locked the door. after 15 minutes of 'hiding', I emerged happier and relaxed. My little one promptly announced to my husband, "make sure mommy goes to the potty everyday for a real long time, she is so happy when she comes out"....if only she knew what mommy was really doing!
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  • stella tinglin

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I feel insecure in a situation. I hid a lot when I experienced depression in the past - social situations of any kind were intolerable and I would bolt from them whenever I could.
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  • Katie Kay

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I guess it could be considered hiding when I like to go incognito. When I need to run a few errands and don't want to doll up, I wear my Jackie O's and a little lip gloss and stay under the radar. Also when I need to finish a big project (like now, I have 100 Fall Handbags to upload onto my website) I hide in my office with the door closed and hope no one needs me.
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  • Diane

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I think I'll have to read that book!
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  • Connie

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I feel depressed. Also, like Danielle, I put angry e-mails in draft and eventually delete when I get over it all. I
    also hide by keeping my phone ringer off or just not answering my
    phone when I need mental space for my projects.
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  • Colette

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I want time by myself to regroup and re-assess, or when my house full of testosterone males gets a little too "stinky" for me.
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  • Beccie

    10 ヶ月 ago

    "Harmony" now that's a beautiful word.
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  • Luciaf

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Like a small animal, I hide when I'm hurt. When my baby died I didn't answer the phone for a month. I have to constantly still remember to put my shoulders back because I am still in a crouch over my womb. I don't talk about it. But I write about it all the time. So, I hide in person - but I let these characters - these letters - these black marks on the electric page - clarify my pain.
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  • Dena

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I'm ill - I just want everyone to go away and leave me alone. And if you're ill, stay away from me - I am so not a nurturer!
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  • Kat the Drumming Diva

    10 ヶ月 ago

    when the phone rings. something rubs me the wrong way when i think of how easy it is to phone someone... when it's convenient for YOU. it's not like email, where the recipient can respond when it's a good time for them. i see something selfish about it. and yet when i want to talk to someone, i love when they answer. i guess it's a combination of the resentment that we have set ourselves up to be so REACHABLE and a fear that i won't protect myself from what i had planned to do and what the person on the other end of the phone wants from me. i see now writing this that it may be that i don't trust myself to respect my own boundaries. hmmm... plus, when i'm at home it's because i've chosen to be there, and not out being social or doing something out in the world. i'm an introvert/extrovert so what i know about myself is i need quiet/retreat/solo time to recharge, and i guess i see the phone as something that can interrupt that at any time.
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  • sky

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I'm glad there is someone like me! I tend to be reclusive and love my alone time. I just don't need people around me all the time. I guess I am hiding and never knew it.
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  • Nia

    10 ヶ月 ago

    when i am not feeling all that great or insecurity is doing a number on me. bad hair days. when i just need to be alone, which is healthy.
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  • Cecile

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Oh Lord, I know exactly whay you nmean... I used to love my garage. Open the door while in the car and ditto upon return. Not that I am antisocial, but it's almost like losing your privacy... The world nows when you are going and coming... and "Where are you headed to?" "Oh, you are going to church?" No... I am hiding from the Sun!!!

    Cécile
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  • Cecile

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Easily resolved: take the phone off the hook. I do it all the time. Turn your cell to silent. I have a little sign that I brought from Paris that says "Privacy Please" embroidered onto a linene little pillow filled with lavender, and I have a basket by the front door for notes, deliveries, etc. This way if they want to leave a note they can... I am a master at isolation when I want to do so. I will NOT answer the phone after eioght o'clock, and anyone who knows me well knows better than to call, so if the phone rings I know it's not anybody that I NEED to talk to. That's what the next morning is for. I can't solve anything after eight anyway. Now, if my neighbor calls after eight or my sister, and so on, then I KNOW it's an emergency. That's another story...

    Telephones and computers are there to serve me. Not the other way around.

    Cécile
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  • Cecile

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Bonjour... Keep your shoulders back. You are a sensitive woman with every reason on Earth to be hurt, and quiet. But keep your shouldres back. It's strength, and chareacter, and it helps heal your heart... All my love, Cécile
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  • Daniel Gibbons

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I haven't quite figured out my position on an issue. I'd rather defer the conversation until I know exactly what I'm going to say and where I'm going to land.
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  • Linda Borland-Fitzgerald

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I do both things... hiding from small talk when not in the mood and I never draft my 'Now, see here!' e-mails, so they sit in my draft folder for a few days. By the time I re-visit them, I've either cooled down and now have no regrets or I edit and send appropriately from a different perspective.

    When I'm feeling 'FAT' (like today) I hide big time. I won't accept social invitations and that is just not productive. I joined our local fitness centre today then went to the store and bought the two, richest donoughts (Canadian spelling) I could find. Don't ask...
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  • Linda Borland-Fitzgerald

    10 ヶ月 ago

    ..doughnuts is the correct Canadian spelling... vision is blurred by all that sugar, I think??
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  • Dolly Hopkins

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide like a bear who has crawled into my winder den. Hidding is all because I want to digest my own stuff before I engage with anyone or anything. Hidding is like being smug ....I am in control of this moment and I plan on getting a few more moments before I return to feast upon the daily harvest of things and people.
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  • Linda Borland-Fitzgerald

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Oh, I wish I knew how to do that... I often tend to blurt if I'm face to face.
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  • Linda Borland-Fitzgerald

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I absolutely agree with you about the phone. I don't want my evening interrupted unless it's vital and like you, everyone who knows me well, adheres to this. I don't unplug, but I screen. Actually, I do that all day as well. Too many tele-marketers intruding on my precious time. It's all part of learning to honour myself. Not that easy but getting better and better..
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  • Linda Borland-Fitzgerald

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Oh, Luciaf.. someone should be rubbing those shoulders once in a while, and all that that implies. Let them in when you are feeling braver. Meanwhile, the penning will help to heal your wounds. Love and light to you..
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  • Linda Borland-Fitzgerald

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Les Pew..!
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  • Daniel Gibbons

    10 ヶ月 ago

    That very much depends what they're selling...
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  • Seren

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I begin to feel like Littlechap in "Stop the World-I Want to Get Off"-- that is, for me, sensory overload. I sit on the floor of my yellow walled, totally empty
    walk-in closet with the door closed and disconnect. With eyes closed, I focus on my breathing. I allow only positive thoughts to meander around in my mind. A time comes when I let myself begin to notice sounds, smells, feel the hardness of the floor under my bum. When I begin to see the plaster swirls on the walls, I get up and walk to the kitchen for a large glass of water.
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  • Alison

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I feel threatened. It happens more often than it should, I'm afraid. I'm naturally the kind of person other people see as "scary", before I even open my mouth. Ironically, I find this idea very disturbing, and I've long developed a habit of behaving bubbly, which doesn't really fit me.
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  • Danette

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I put a sign on my home studio door that says DO NOT ENTER: MASSIVE BRAINCHILD HATCHING.

    It worked, until the renovations of the studio lead to the entire removal of the door. I'm going crazy with no door. Time for another sign- this time on a big piece of fabric, so I can tent myself in until my door comes back.
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  • Danette

    10 ヶ月 ago

    my friend always answers to solicitors by only cracking the door a smidge, poking her head out looking grave, and whispering, "it's not a good time."

    Then she shuts the door.

    She said that way, she's not technically lying. It's never a good time.
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  • Danette

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide in the grocery store from people I know when I need privacy and food at the same time.

    I hide in mediocrity when I am fearful of my own voice.

    I hide in my studio, when I am in love with my own voice.
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  • sky

    10 ヶ月 ago

    My sympathy. I lost a son 9 years ago. It never leaves you but eventually you learn to cope. Grief is a tough journey you have to go through and hopefully come out with some understanding. But you have to experience the grief, not sidestep from it. God bless.
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  • Liana

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I usually hide when my heart is hurting, and i need to care for a tender part of me.

    L
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  • Kristin (The Goat)

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I forgot about one of my biggest hiding times.... when I go "invisible" on Instant Messenger. That one is nice and it's fun to respond to someone when invisible, too. They don't expect to be answered so quickly lol
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  • Marissa

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Mellie, I am right there with you. I spend a lot of time by myself (well, in the company of two spoiled dogs, but otherwise by myself), and until I pause to realize it, it never occurs to me that I'm "alone" for as much time as I am. My creativity dances to the surface when I'm alone. Possibilities get very bright, and issues rattling around in my life start to calm down and make some sense. I hunger for solitude and quiet the way some people hunger for a chance to go out and socialize. When I don't allow myself that solitude, my health even suffers--I too feel that overwhelm and exhaustion. Setting limits and acknowledging this part of who I am has made a positive difference for me. And it's always nice to run across someone else who's in the same--quietly alone--boat. :)
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  • Marissa

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Ah! Me too! I had a cedar closet built in to the wall of my bedroom as a child, and I rearranged the linens in there so that there was enough room for me to crawl inside and read. I also always had my bed arranged so that it created some kind of "hideout." I made it into a trundle bed so I could pull out the trundle and hang out underneath the top bed, behind the trundle. I'd push the bed so its headboard was in the corner of the room so there was a triangle of space behind the headboard. I loved going to my special hideouts (which I thought were secret, but Mums and Daddio totally knew about them). Now that I'm an adult, I have a whole house that's my get-away comfort zone. Offers considerably more room for stretching out than the cedar closet, but still gives me that same joy of being away from it all!
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  • Marissa

    10 ヶ月 ago

    It's that Monk Envy again... (*ponders whether her homeowners association would be amenable to the idea of transforming her house into a mini-convent... and determines their approval to be highly unlikely.* *Returns to drawing board.*)
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  • Marissa

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Of course, if the salespeople happened to be the local football team doing fundraising, you'd mark your house the most popular house in town! LOL
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  • Marissa

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Luciaf and Sky, your strength is humbling, and unfathomable. I wish you both continued healing and light.
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  • Marissa

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I'm feeling overwhelmed. If I'm feeling overwhelm from lack of solitude, I hide out in my house and in the quiet (or in the music) I fill it with. If I'm feeling overwhelm from stress or a seemingly unsolveable problem, I sometimes "hide" in a nap or an extended night's sleep. It's often amazing to me what some extra shut-eye will do to clarify and restore.
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  • bene

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide when I need a break and feel a bit vulnerable. I rest in my bed and watch dvd`s that makes me happy. I walk in the woods or by then sea and just sit still for a while. Nothing is like the voices of nature, waves hitting the shore, seagulls cries, wind sweeping trees and birds singing. It soothes my heart.
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  • Cindy

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Vanessa, I go to the movies alone too. First of all, I am very passionate about movies, and I hate to miss any part of it. When you go with others, they tend to talk or make comments, so I am in heaven when I can go alone and make sure that I am not sitting near chatty people. The DVD is one of the greatest inventions of all time because now you can watch any movie in the comfort of your own home - alone if you choose!
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  • Cindy

    10 ヶ月 ago

    You said a mouthful - who invented small talk anyway? I wish that people would not talk unless they really have something substantial, or "big" to say. I am very economical with my words and I rarely speak unless I truly have something to say. I crave "real" conversations, and it is so hard to find others that feel the same way.
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  • Krystl

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide behind my camera in social situations. So much easier than small talk.
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  • Cindy

    10 ヶ月 ago

    It sounds like you are just a misunderstood introvert. You should read this book called "The Introvert Advantage" - it was completely liberating for me because I am an introvert as well, and like 75% of the U.S. population are extroverts. You should definitely stop trying to be bubbly if you don't feel it because it is a total energy drain. This book helped me to be comfortable with being an introvert and gave excellent suggestions on ways to conserve your energy and deal with others.
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  • Bri

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide whenever there is something that I don't want to face...problems at home, work, socially.... but I have learned that if you ignore it, it unfortunately won't go away. I'm a cancer, I can't help but hide in my shell! *Creatively Playful*
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  • Shirley Ann Hallee

    10 ヶ月 ago

    I hide from those who try to prevent me from being me. The me is a
    creative and caring person...fairly intelligent. I have discovered
    there are some who balk at intelligence on the part of female person.
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  • Marie Leona

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I don't want others to read my emotions, my thoughts. I throw myself in any kind of work, housework, office work, ect...
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  • Alison

    10 ヶ月 ago

    Thankyou very much! I'll go book hunting very soon. I appreciate the recommendation, it sounds like a good fit.
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  • laurie_matthews

    10 ヶ月 ago

    When I'm overwhelmed or need to recharge
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  • Julia

    10 ヶ月 ago

    This sounds really dark...it hasn't happened in years...but, if I ever over indulged with alchohol, it would make me so depressed that I'd hide in my closet!!! Those carefree, partying days came with a price! So, I'm a big fan of getting older...no need to hide.
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  • Nancy

    9 ヶ月 ago

    I hide from negative people. Life can be difficult and this is something we all know. It is easier for me to face things with a smile and a positive attitude than put up with negativity. I mean I really hide. In stores, anywhere, to get away from the overly negative types.
    I also have a tendancy to be shy, so I must admit I sometimes hide myself from social functions. The shyness I wish I could work on.
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