Carrie and Danielle - Latest Comments in What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Vanessa Rae — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 12:33:08 -0000

I would live moment by moment and trust that my heart would lead me to fulfilling my passions and deepest desires. All too often I get caught in the past as well as the future and I fear, I worry and I doubt which leads me to not trust myself. A vicious cycle of generating fabulous ideas but nothing to show for them. If I weren't afraid I would live an authentic life and trust that by living fully in the moment, I will my way into the answers.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Lindsay — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 01:04:17 -0000

I'd rip down a 10ft glassy wave with style and grace, just like in my dreams.... Then i'd quit my winter job and become a sponsored big wave surfer and travel the world seeking the best breaks out there, swimming with dolphins and enjoying every aspect of that lifestyle. Is that selfish?

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Hilde — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 16:58:34 -0000

Quit my Job, sell everything, take my two dogs, leave this city, start all over.

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aceofsomething — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 12:42:00 -0000

make more mistakes.

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Alison — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 21:19:59 -0000

Shine.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Rick_Juliusson — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 10:32:03 -0000

if you really want to overcome a fear of diminished privacy, try marrying a writer - my wife is in constant amused fear of what i'm going to publish next :)

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

marn — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 01:53:12 -0000

Remember you cannot 'make' anyone 'feel' a certain way... The only person you are in control of is yourself.... If that person chooses to feel angry, upset, put-out, resentful, etc... it really is their problem, not yours. If that person doesn't like you while you are being your 'true' self, then why would you want to spend time with them? Find some people you can be 'real' & 'true' around.
The best gift you can give yourself & the world is your true self. :-)

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

DanielleLaPorte — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 22:58:55 -0000

being a bitch and being soft is not an either/or proposition. You can be BOTH!

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Nicole — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 21:14:59 -0000

Like debbierodgers below, I would be successful if I wasn't afraid. sometimes success is scary, what if i fail and everyone knows? I'm working to move past that so I can taste the sweetness of success.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

EcoDiva — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 14:55:56 -0000

Lori, This is one of my favorite things to do. Something that I've found that takes the pressure of is having fun with it. We have nights where each of us brings a favorite dish and we each make sure we choose salad, main, desserts etc. But if there end up being more than one dessert...oh well ;-). Seriously, this is a great way to connect and everyone feels like they are a part of the evening in their own unique way, even if it's just bringing a great bottle of wine. This is a great way to have an amazing meal without spending mula.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

missp — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 14:26:29 -0000

hmmm .. what would I do if I weren't afraid? EVERYTHING.. I'd get it together and travel, I haven't flown forever, gone anywhere that I can't drive to... I'd get back on stage and perform.. I'd just like to not be so afraid.. One day at a time.. I'm working on it.. Just get going!!! lol..

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

marn — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 13:31:31 -0000

I concur! DO NOT DO IT! I have seen WAY too many women do it, and then REALLY feel like they have lost their identity!!! Go for some hilights and a good cut. Spend some money on a great hair products. It will make all the difference!

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Cobby — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 11:32:53 -0000

If I weren't afraid, I would stop trying so hard to be subtle and I would become more assertive like I used to be before a boss I respected told me that people would think I was a "B----" if I didn't learn to be softer.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Amy Guth — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 11:23:47 -0000

I don't have much fear of doing things, either. I wonder, sometimes though, if a fear of diminished privacy stops me from being more successful, as it's been my experience that people want to know so much about successful people. One day, I'll find a way to balance both.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

DanielleLaPorte — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 02:27:59 -0000

no no no - do not cut your hair short. this is a classic new mommy mistake. (tho' you'd look hot, I think you could totally pull it off, especially with some blonde action) But don't do it til you at least lose the baby weight and you're feeling like your body is yours again. I bet ya a lot of new mamas would concur.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Angela — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 01:56:35 -0000

Get a tattoo, and maybe veneers on my teeth.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

alligator_kate — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 01:20:54 -0000

For me it is poetry slam too. Or at least public poetry reading... I had almost let myself forget that I want to do that. I used to do it all the time, years and years ago, and have somehow lost my nerve. This is a good kick in the pants.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Shirley Ann — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 20:19:37 -0000

I did exactly what I was afraid of - and came to love it. As a very young woman I was afraid of
heights. I conquered a bit of it...being asked to climb a ranger tower so that a photo could be
taken of me overlooking a forest. That was hard. I would shake if I had to go up in a tall building.

Later in life, possibly in reaction to an abusive husband - I took flying lessons and I became a
pilot. The husband is gone from my life. I flew for a time after that - and then it was no longer
necessary. I am now learning, writing, painting - and enjoying life. Conquering what you are
afraid of calls us to deal with many levels of fear. If we do that, we are truly free.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Linda Fitzgerald — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 19:01:11 -0000

Ooooh, can I come? Did you read Shirley MacLaines book about walking The Camino by herself. That should have been MY answer to the question.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Linda Fitzgerald — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 18:59:15 -0000

Lori, save up if you have to and hire a small but reputable caterer and enjoy yourself.. you will be envied.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Linda Fitzgerald — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 18:57:44 -0000

Public speaking.. and everything else that makes me vulnerable to judgement, criticism, ridicule, abandonment and what is it the Amish do? Shun? Yeah, that too..

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Elwyne — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 18:13:57 -0000

Ride my bike downhill without hanging on the brakes the whole time! :D

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

mariellesmith33 — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 17:43:55 -0000

I would write a book, become a public speaker and create more group gatherings that are filled with meaning, spirit and laughter!

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Isabelle Vonturi — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 17:06:34 -0000

All my fears are now within my power by acknowledging them and acting anyway. To be extraordinary one must be unreasonable. Going beyond all those little reasons why I can't do something has me truly living!

Thank you Carrie for sharing your experience of the Landmark Forum. My whole way of being is transformed and now everything I want to do in life is possible.

Before I would by derailed by fear, my story of the past, and basically frozen in place by the proverbial headlights of being inauthentic and lying to avoid looking bad. I felt unfulfilled, dissatisfied and knew that I wasn't anywhere close to reaching my true potential.

Now the world is my hot, juicy oyster and wow am I ever going for it all!
Sophisticated Lustrous

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Lori_from_Texas — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 16:37:55 -0000

I would open my home more for evenings of casual conversation & delicious food among friends & friends of friends. My fear is that I would be over-extending myself and that I don't have the "hostess with the mostest" ease like some of my out-going/partygirl friends.