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  Kristi

  1 year ago

  I'm saying "no" to guilt over the impossibility of making decisions at work that make everybody happy.
  
  I will make hard decisions based on compassion, consultation and ethical reasoning, I will explain those choices, and then I will let go of guilt and feeling responsible for other people's emotions & reactions.
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  Kristin

  1 year ago

  As I work from home, I will say 'no' to procrastination and distractions. I need to ensure I say no to the small, irresponsible decisions I often make that can set me off course.
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  bene

  1 year ago

  I am saying no to my family at the moment. And I say no to the guilt that creeps upon me afterwards. I need time apart from my family and I do not need to make excuses about that. Mostly I say no to all the guilt I sometimes feel! No to guilt! And yes, darling, people can take care of themselves, just relax for a bit and have more fuuuuuuuuuuuun! Jup. That´s about it!
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  braziliana

  1 year ago

  Procrastination + Guilty Feelings=DETOX
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  Beckie

  1 year ago

  Saying no can be good for our family. Saying no is not a selfish act. In fact, as a recovering helicopter parent, it may be the most beneficial thing that I can do for our family. I will say no to my semi-emancipated daughter when she asks for an extension on a loan.
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  Heather

  1 year ago

  When my boss criticizes me or others unfairly (which is a near certainty), I will say no to that anger and emotional reaction that doesn't help me or anybody else. When I feel it coming, I will find my breath, my center, and say a prayer for her.
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  Joannie

  1 year ago

  I'm saying no to anyone who even implies I'm not a writer. I am a writer. I have a right to write (Julia Cameron). I will close the door to my work room and write - any time.
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  Nicole

  1 year ago

  I'm saying no to distractions. I will no longer let distractions deter me from my goals and accomplishements. I'm also saying no to fear and move inspite of how I feel.
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  Jamie

  1 year ago

  I'm saying no to drama and kowtowing.
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  Dena

  1 year ago

  James
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  Andrea Devis

  1 year ago

  I am saying no to people whose religion is excuses and people who waste my time.
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  Xai Vicente Charles

  1 year ago

  It's so hard for me to say no but I'll have to start saying it more often. I will say "no" when things are not working for me, get in the way of my creativity and time with my loved ones.
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  Andrea Devis

  1 year ago

  I support you Dena, I have had my own "James" to say no to.
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  Colette

  1 year ago

  Once I heard Esther Hicks say that you can't say "no" to the things you don't want and make it go away, I took her advice and started saying "yes' to the things I do want. So I suppose that by defualt I say no, but the focus is on what I want, rather than what I don't want. I am saying yes to the lemondade cleanse nad detoxing, which is saying yes to healthy and skinny! I am saying yes to a new career and to self fullfillment and new friends!
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  asha

  1 year ago

  I am saying "no" to putting other people's feeling before mine. That doesn't mean I have to be a self-absorbed bitch, but it does mean that I will start looking out for the better interest of me and my feelings rather than commiting to things out of temptation and people-pleasing.
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  Krystl

  1 year ago

  shopping!
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  asha

  1 year ago

  and fast food.... forgot that one.
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  Mary-Jo

  1 year ago

  I am saying no to a new job that simply isn't right for me.The knowledge that I have a path to follow and this choice would take me away from that is enough to give me the strength to make the best choice for me. In yoga class last night, my teacher read the quote "If I am not for myself, who will be for me." I'm glad I have the courage to say no and be for me.
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  Reg

  1 year ago

  I am committed to saying no to overindulging in food so I can get in shape for my 40th birthday cruise!
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  Jen

  1 year ago

  I will say no to impossible demands and impossible promises to keep, to dropping everything at hand to give everything to everyone right away. And in doing so, I will be saying yes to accomplishing and completing, to being respectful to myself and others, and opening up to the possibility of under promising and over delivering. The good comes from the actions not the words.
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  Sheri

  1 year ago

  I'm saying 'NO!" to playing small...to pretending I am not here on a divine mission.
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  C Martin

  1 year ago

  I will say no to old patterns of behaviour; both in myself and for my husband who has decided he wants global change (proof that there are MIRACLES!!).
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  Kirsten

  1 year ago

  I am saying no to worry today. It does nothing for me, fixes nothing and only gives me a stomach ache. I will worry about nothing and pray about everything.
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  Kirsten

  1 year ago

  You can do it girl!!! I believe in you!
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  karen

  1 year ago

  i am saying no about the stress of what to say "no" or "yes" to-- way too much pressure!
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  lisaohhh

  1 year ago

  i'm saying no to invitations that don't thrill me.
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  Kate

  1 year ago

  I will say no to procrastinating.
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  Annah

  1 year ago

  I am saying no to all of those negative little thoughts and nagging little rememberances from the past that tell me i'm not good enough or can't do something. I am and I can!
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  Susie Hutchinson

  1 year ago

  "Never Explain, Apologize or Justify," is something I heard which resonates every time I'm asked to do something I don't want to. I try to live by this, but from time to time find myself justifying a decision. This a work in progress.
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  Karryn Ransom

  1 year ago

  Wow, you're so enlightened. Much better than bitterly planning her downfall. (That's fun too!) KIDDING!
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  Karryn Ransom

  1 year ago

  Good Lord, WHY????
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  Christine

  1 year ago

  I'm going to say no to letting the challenges in life get me down. I'm going to say yes to meeting each and every day with a positive attitude.
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  kerrymac

  1 year ago

  I will say no to apologizing...for the chaos of shoes and beach things at the front door, the plaster pregnancy bust on the dining room table I haven't finished, for my kids toys left out on the lawn...it's our home and we are living in it. I get embarrassed and defensive when people stop in and I shouldn't pretend that this isn't the norm.
  www.snickerdoodles.typepad.com
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  Gina

  1 year ago

  I will say no to wasteful spending, including not standing up for myself when others slyly allow me to continuously foot the bill in various circumstances.
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  Marion

  1 year ago

  I will say no to overloading myself with tasks that get in the way of accomplishments.
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  Krystl

  1 year ago

  LOL. not forever! just this week. i've been on a bit of a spending tear, and i know i am using it as retail therapy since i've been a bit stressed lately. need to just slow down and try to destress in some way not related to the acquisition of things. don't worry, i'll be back in the shops soon. :)
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  Karryn Ransom

  1 year ago

  I will shamefully admit to using Carrie's "let me get back to you" with my six-year-old as mind control and manipulation. I say it when I don't have the strength for the ongoing barrage of 'why' that will likely ensue when I tell her that no, she can't have anther Webkin (what is WITH those anyway?)
  
  I say I'll think about it - which she thinks means, "Absolutely, let's get Mommy's credit card and buy one NOW!". Then she forgets about it and I can go back to my tequila. Carrie, you're a genius!
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  Ngonzi Truth Crushshon

  1 year ago

  I will say no to going places when I am tired. I'm proud of myself...this weekend I said NO twice to going to parties w my friends on Friday and Saturday. I was simply tired. I know they are mad at me for not going and probably called me LAME....but I did what was best for me at the time. I don't regret saying NO! Actually I'm looking forward to it. I have to start making myself a priority, too!
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  Karryn Ransom

  1 year ago

  But only when you're good and ready, right? :)
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  Kate

  1 year ago

  ha!
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  CeCe

  1 year ago

  Thanks for your wise words Colette. Just what I needed to hear.
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  CeCe

  1 year ago

  Amen to that.
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  CeCe

  1 year ago

  This has been my favorite Q&A. There is so much wisdom in everyone's words, and so much I personally relate to.
  
  I am saying NO to beating myself up.
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  RecollectedStephanie

  1 year ago

  This week I am saying no to: naysayers of all sorts, the predictably woeful Greek Chorus in my head predicting impending doom, my own laziness, and my own fears, and I am even saying no to all my own past attempts (failures AND successes). They need have no power right now. This week I am saying yes love - because love casts out fear. And I am remembering what an instructor said last week. The difference between experience and learning is that experience is always something in the past. Learning is present tense. No - definitely no - to the wait for another experience. Yes - absolutely yes - to the learning.
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  Janet

  1 year ago

  My sad-sack appearance. Dyed the hair yesterday and bought some new bras. I'm already feeling a lift!
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  Kristin (the Goat)

  1 year ago

  Since there seems to be so many of us with the same name, I stuck on (the Goat), as that is the name of my blog....anyway, I am saying NO to GUILT.
  
  
  I feel guilty all the time about things in the past. They just creep up on me and ya know, there isn't a darn thing I can do about it. One of the things was from 2nd grade. 2nd grade, I mean really.
  
  
  I get this little bit of guilt that rises up and I try to forgive myself and put it away, but it keeps coming back. This week I am going to say No to Guilt and instead of trying to get rid of it, I will get rid of it. I would like to systematically get rid of all the past guilty feelings and just accept it and move on.
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  Caroline

  1 year ago

  this week, i am saying no to accepting mixed messages from my partner. i am saying no to accepting less than what i need and to permitting someone to project all over me. i am saying yes to asking for what i need and to not agreeing with options and situations that don't nurture or support me.
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  Seanna

  1 year ago

  I am commited to saying no to anything in excess. Excessive shopping, drinking, going out. I want to spend more time with me and doing things that I enjoy that get me out into this glorious weather!
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  Connie

  1 year ago

  I'm saying no to "soldiering on" when I am once again feeling deep sadness and grief over the loss of my best friend, Philip, who died 7 years ago on july 2. I do not need to put on a happy face and pretend all is well when I miss him so much and always will. I say no to denial and phoniness on my part and I say yes to remembering all the love we shared.
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  Leia

  1 year ago

  I'm going to practice saying No, as I haven't mastered saying it yet- and so maybe I'll start out by saying no to small things.......like an extra helping of pie, or a glass of wine-
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  LaKecia

  1 year ago

  YES!!!!!!
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  LaKecia

  1 year ago

  I am saying not to the same things Nicole is saying no to. I feel she has been listening to me and thoughts the past month. Thanks!!!!
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  LaKecia

  1 year ago

  I agree.
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  Beth C.

  1 year ago

  My husband has become increasingly unwilling to get out of the house and do things. He says that he is embarrassed because he is overweight. I understand the way he feels, but I'm saying "no" to putting life on hold until we are or have "enough" of anything. No more waiting until we've lost "enough" weight, earned "enough" or anything else. I'm saying "no" to being a stick in the mud and failing to celebrate special holidays and occasions. I will plan a sweet and healthy picnic and fireworks watching for my husband and I this Independence Day.
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  Gail

  1 year ago

  I am finally learning to say no to things I don't want to do, without guilt of feeling I am creating disappointments. All my life, I said yes to family and friends just so I wouldn't rock the boat. It is so freeing to feel like I can do what I want to do.
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  laurie_matthews

  1 year ago

  I'm saying no to things that encroach upon time I've already scheduled for something else that's important to me. I don't want to spread my time thin with the things I love and am looking forward to doing.
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  Sharon

  1 year ago

  I'd like to know more about the lemonade cleanse. I just purchased a book called, The Detox Strategy by Brenda Watson
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  Hilma

  1 year ago

  I am committed to saying no to the extra jobs that are bound to show up on my desk because someone else is taking extra time off or going to be away or just isn't working on the job right now - enough of covering for my staff. Yes, I am the business owner, but the delegation of duties must be maintained so I can get that "free time" this week. I must say NO.
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  Leanne

  1 year ago

  "State it. Don't defend it".
  
  This week I will say "no" to myself, everytime I feel compelled to offer some explaination as to why I am unable to do anything that someone asks of me. I readily accept a simple "Sorry, I can't make it, but thanks" from other people.
  
  I must build some muscle memory into both my brain and mouth to think and respond the same way.
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  Anna

  1 year ago

  I love Abraham/Hicks and I practice my yes with blind enthusiasm and great frequency. Another of my very favorite teachers, Byron Katie always says a No to someone else is a Yes to me. So there you have it, a No is often really a yes in disguise.
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  Ellen

  1 year ago

  I'm answering this on Tuesday because I said "no" to working on Monday when I wasn't up to it.
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  Danielle LaPorte

  1 year ago

  double yyyyyessss!
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  Danielle LaPorte

  1 year ago

  Zen.
  Love it.
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  Danielle LaPorte

  1 year ago

  Do you know that 80% of women wear the wrong size bra? I digress...
  A new bra is a powerful thing.
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  Carrie McCarthy

  1 year ago

  this is good! We don't need a reason for a simple no.
  
  thank you.
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  coletteburnham

  1 year ago

  Recipe for the lemonade cleanse
  go for organic with all the ingredients
  a small botle of cayenne
  lemons and limes
  grade b dark amber pure maple syrup
  pure water and a straw
  herbal laxative tea
  per glass - 1 Tablespoon lemon or lime juice 1 Tablespoon of maple syrup 1/8 teaspoon water - at least 8 oz. I like to drink it with more water. It is most affective when made one glass at a time but you can make it by the half gallon - ( 1 cup each of the fresh squeezed lemons or limes and the syrup, except the cayenne, that will always need to be put in and stirred with the straw. Then sip the lemonade slowly. Do not make any changes, drink only the lemonade and water. Do not take any supplements of any kind. Each night, drink a cup of herbal laxative tea. I like smooth move by Traditional Medicines. If you have any more questions I am at yahoo.
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  coletteburnham

  1 year ago

  oops 1/8 teaspoon of cayenne per glass and at least 8 oz of water
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  Candace

  11 months ago

  I am saying no to staying in the house and feeling alone.
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