DISQUS

Susie Hutchinson · 1 year ago

I complain about so many things, it's hard to just choose one. I'm not sure when I became a constant complainer, I hate hearing myself do it. I can't believe it's me, but it is. If I must choose one, then it will be the one I use every time I see a friend, go into a shop or grab lunch. My body. After two pregnancies, my body has become unrecognizable to me. I suppose if I'm honest, I want to be perfect, I want the ass I had at 18, but unless I radically change my life I don't see it happening. My wish is more time and support so I can take care of myself as well as everyone else in my life. But that's just another complaint.

Stefan · 1 year ago

Sloppy inprecise work makes me bitch hard. Then I realize that looked at from certain angles my own work is not as precise as I would like it to be - so my complaining about other people's output basically is about my own. Then I quiet down and wish for a more straight forward approach of mine to create what really makes the work good ... and me content.

Romana Mirza · 1 year ago

Inaccuracy. I recently when to a postal outlet inside a drug store. Even though the card indicated the outlet would be open from 9-5, it neglected to mention that the outlet is closed from 1 to 2 for lunch. Guess what time I arrived. It's so simple to communicate, it's just an extra few characters to print a lunch hour on a card, it's just a phone call or an email to communicate a more accurate description of something. My deep desire is that we all take a moment to understand how we will be understood by our audience so that we all strive to be better communicators. It's the golden rule, right?

B.L. Wagner · 1 year ago

I'm not a saint but I make a conscious effort not to complain too much. At one intense significant life altering point in my life when my mother passed, each day was like swimming up from a very deep place trying to find the surface - after four years I broke the surface and gulped in a big breath of air, that was Life and gratitude/
In the meantime, rude people make me crazy. My wish is for simple respect across the board.

Xai Vicente Charles · 1 year ago

My biggest complaint of late seems to be fatigue. I find that I am not as energetic as I once was. It seems as if I am carrying another person on my shoulders constantly. I drag myself to work and back, homework time with my son and even those intimate moments with my husband. There are things I want to do but just can't get going.

Secretly, I crave sleep. Delicious sleep. Uninterrupted sleep. Did I say I need sleep! I believe this is the secret behind my complaint. I dream of two weeks on an island in Greece or Fiji. I want to sleep on a huge bed under a canopy of stars. For now, I would settle for a long weekend away from home. I realize I need to recharge my batteries and I have to do it soon.

chantal · 1 year ago

Isolation. Our culture is very ME oriented and separated from eachother. I see it in the cities, our cars and nursing homes. We celebrate our individualty but have forgotten community.
My dream is for us to live fully integrated with nature, in community and to remember we are all brothers & sisters.
It takes a village to raise a child - African Proverb

Anne · 1 year ago

I complain about how people can be flat out rude particularly in the city. They drive like maniacs, they push and shove to get in the train, they cut you off for a parking space, they ignore pregnant women so they don't have to offer their seats, etc. I just wish people could be more respectful and courteous with others, it makes life so much easier and happier for everyone.

Maureen · 1 year ago

This question really stumps me as I haev to think about what is my biggest complaint. After some thought, I have so many complaints, that that in and of itself is a complaint! Why is it that everything we can attain in this world, in this life, is only fractionally satisfying? I have an answer but wonder what others think? Why do we strive so hard and then end up not sure whether the result is really what we wanted??

Annah · 1 year ago

I complain a lot about money - seems i never have enough of it. I realize that the cause for this is that i spend very impulsively, tend to go for quantity over quality, and in general neglect my finances. So I supposed my wish behind that complaint is that i become more conscious and accountable when it comes to my personal finances.

Melissa · 1 year ago

I complain a lot about peoples general sense of entitlement...to everything from a belief that they are owed a job (actual work is not necessary) to littering (it's somehow their right to leave their mark on shared space/the earth). Behind this is my wish that we could find respect for the community in general and and a realization that we as individuals are required to do something to make that community happen.

Beth C. · 1 year ago

My biggest complaint is that my spouse will not start a family with me right now because he believes that we both need to be at healthier weights and that we both need to be exercising regularly. Although I agree with him, it feels a little like rejection. There are two wishes behind this complaint. I wish that he wholly, completely and unconditionally accepted me. I also wish that my weight and exercise habits were already perfect.

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon · 1 year ago

The wish behind my biggest complaint is TO ENJOY LIFE! I always complain about not exploring the city, falling into the rut of going to the same old places and doing the same routine things everyday....so my goal is to expose myself to new and different venues,foods,events and cultural activities in Chicago and around the world. I even plan to visit Carrie and Danielle in British Columbia for a consultation. So when I die, I can say-I TRULY LIVED!

Karryn · 1 year ago

I hear you Susie! I'm working on getting to the place where I accept the changes in body. I'll let you know when I get there....

Karryn · 1 year ago

I complain too often about not having enough romance in my life. I've bitched to my hubby about wanting him to do this and that - until I once overheard a woman say to her friend, "You know what, my guy takes out the garbage because I hate to do it. He fills my car up with gas because I always forget. He's so romantic!" I'd never thought of these things as "romantic" but she's right - underneath it all was my wish to see the little things in a different light. He didn't serenade me with arm-loads of roses, but changed the sheets last night, and turned the bed down for me. How romantic.

Tina Woodlee · 1 year ago

I would just like to be as good as I expect other people to be.

Lynn · 1 year ago

The aha moment for me about complaining came with the psych phrase "there's something about you I don't like about me". I find that most of the time the things that gripe me I am also guilty of to somem degree and really don't want to admit it. I work in customer service and it's the hardest job I have ever had in 40 years but I am grateful for it. My day is full of complaints and angry customers and my job is to resolve them successfully. I like the creativity of it and have small successes. I am treated with little respect by many customers but most days I genuinely try to respond with kindness and a smile. "Be the change you want to see" Gandhi. Customers that approach their issues with the understanding that I am just doing my job and thank me for my efforts just make my day. So I guess the wish behind my biggest complaint is that I would not be guilty of the same behavior. By the way, it's smacking chewing gum.

Lynn · 1 year ago

Wonderful answer - thanks for sharing. A keeper...and SO true for me too.

Krystl · 1 year ago

Self-absorption in the city. I complain about people who don't see others in the world around them. People that stop dead at the top of the subway steps or coming out of a revolving door. The city is one organism and we are all a part of it. It doesn't work well if we don't notice that we are all in it together. I wish for greater peripheral vision for everyone.

Michele Huffman · 1 year ago

I loved Danielle's answer! I too am motivated to businesses, and people who go the extra mile, who smile, who use their manners- I love that quality! Thank you notes are the norm at my house. Ironically, in the last 24 hours I have experienced both poor and amazing customer service (or just people skills)...we are in the middle of a huge move to Denver from Toronto. The woman who handles our banking is AWESOME! She emails with us, is interested in our transactions, and assures me that all will be fine-all with the most calm and lovely demeanor...on the opposite side-walking out of a coffee house yesterday, hands are full, my child is needy-young man in front of me, looks at me and doesn't hold the door open that two more seconds for me to catch it with my foot-wham! I opened it and said to the young man "you know, it wouldn't have been any bother for you to hold that door one more moment for me." His response "oh, I wasn't paying attention." BINGO-engage and be conscious!

Lisa D. · 1 year ago

I wasn't going to participate in this Q&A, because I'm ashamed of my complaint!
I complain (privately to my husband) that my stepkids are ambivalent toward me. I realize, logically, that my hurt is all about my expectations and hopes. My brain understands this but my heart - - emotionally I can be a wreck.
I just wish for a Mom/child type of relationship and they don't feel that way toward me. Don't get me wrong, I know I'm somewhat special to them; and we get along famously, but I AIN'T 'Mom' and never will be. When you hope for a certain level of a relationship and it doesn't happen, it is a bit of a heartache. They are not doing anything wrong - they are acting normal. This is any and every child's behavior in this stepfamily situation. Kids have two loves - Mom and Dad. I should be thankful that they LIKE me!! Asking for LOVE - well, hopefully that will come in time! :-)