Carrie and Danielle - Latest Comments in What do you need to let go of?

Re: What do you need to let go of?

L.A. Jones — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 13:48:22 -0000

It seems to me that there is nothing left to do.

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Suzyn — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 10:19:22 -0000

Anything beige.

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Joannie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:03:23 -0000

It might sound silly but I believe I'm co-dependent to the house! I tend to hide inside of it. I want more freedom, more space, more community involvement instead I am too often within the four walls of my little house.

Of course I'm also open to the possiblity that this isn't the reason at all and perhaps the true reason will come to me - down the road! :)

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Karen — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 09:50:32 -0000

I'm struggling right now with the need to ask you why you feel you need to let go of your little house? I always feel that need to be the "mom" to the universe....off it goes! Like a balloon into the air!

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Lisa M. — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:01:35 -0000

Guilt...for no good reason.

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Kim — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 12:42:08 -0000

I need to let go of my desire to be anywhere else other than where i am in the moment. Each moment is always perfectly taken care of.

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L'Tanya — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 08:40:05 -0000

Mel, I'm going through the same thing. I am letting go of "helping," pushing, researching, talking to get him to take responsibility. I am willing to let go of him because my children and deserve a better model and I am choosing a light and peaceful life.

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Lisa KTP — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:44:23 -0000

I need to let go of some pain from my past. I lost a very close friendship, it dissolved mysteriously, and I still do not know why. I feel great distrust and hurt. I am wary to trust other women and make friendships. Yes, one would expect this pain to be reserved for ex-lovers...yes, there are past loves...but I am mostly over them. I am hurt and frustrated that I cannot put this behind me. I wish to let go and move on - so that I might be open and receptive to good people around me. I do believe that there are good people around me.

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Julie — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:23:40 -0000

I need to let go of the idea that people can read my mind and sense my needs. It doesn't happen often, but when I do have expectations and get disappointed by someone it is SUCH a disappointment for me and deeply saddens me for a day or two. I try to sense and respond to the needs of others, so I mistakenly assume they can sense my needs and fulfill them.

Re: What do you need to let go of?

writer11 — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:22:37 -0000

Oh my. Who is this Mary Oliver? I must check her out.

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writer11 — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:20:28 -0000

. old relationships that no longer serve me. Dan Millman's book, 'The Life You Were Born To Live,' breaks down your birth numbers to reveal your life lessons and mine is to stop worrying about what others think of me. So, I tend to not want to let go of friends who sometimes need to move on. The friends who do leave, tend to return and our relationship seems to have grown richer in it's absence. I'm not sure what that's about but intend to explore it within my current relationship with a friend who has come back into my life after over a decade. She had ended it without telling me why. It hurt a lot and when we recently reunited, it was wonderful. We seemed to sort it out and it no longer matters. It's as though no time at all passed, and then suddenly our friendship was renewed and enriched. Does this make sense to anyone?

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Julie — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:20:19 -0000

Kristin- Your reply was stated perfectly! I have many friends who married young and settled, and many of them are now unhappy and getting divorced. As a single 32 yr old, it's sometimes unsettling going to events where most people are married. I echo your sentiments on 'taking space to become yourself in your own skin'-- it's SO important to know yourself and your needs before committing to a partner. I'm incredibly confident that I'll find the man for me, and in the meantime am focused on enjoying my single life-- happy, independent and loving life!

Re: What do you need to let go of?

janie — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:18:07 -0000

You are most welcome, I so needed to have the words pass by my fingers again and I am glad Mary's words could touch your heart.

VJK

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Daniel Gibbons — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 23:39:39 -0000

I need to let go of regret about missed opportunities, and focus on opportunities that lie ahead.

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Danette — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 23:15:47 -0000

I need to let go of the idea that I'm in some kind of race, with others, with time, with my potential, my own dreams.
It is time to slow down and boogie.

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Cécile — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 19:26:14 -0000

Lori and Crys,

Perfectionism and control. One goes hand in hand with the other...

I like to get as close to perfect as I can, and we type A's love control... what else is new...

Cécile

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Natasha — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 18:24:35 -0000

My fear of money.

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Julia — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 18:21:04 -0000

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement! I guess kissing toads is a good learning experience. I'll never wonder what's "out there"!!!! Think I'll go enjoy an uninterupted bubble bath and a glass of vino!

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Julia — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 18:17:31 -0000

Thank you so much for your response! I feel that perhaps I haven't appreciated what I do have with my "whole heart"; I just think I have. Your words are profound. I appreciate your insight.

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thepoet — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 17:03:15 -0000

Read through comments and feel like we are so in the right place at the right time. Carrie & Danielle's book is so fabulous and so right on. The way we beat ourselves up and think we are "average" or not unique is why we need to find ourselves. I am about half way through determining my style statement and this is it for me. I have been a self-help junkie for years and already, I am ready to kick ass and celebrate being me. Thanks to Carrie & Danielle and all of you bloggers. We can do it

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Carrie McCarthy — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 16:35:55 -0000

I too have realised some people don't have the tools to be present in our lives. And that we have the power to create our own families.
Blessings to you Stella.

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Lori — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 16:25:13 -0000

I need to let go of my need for perfection in myself and my life (it is the 1 in me for those who know the eneagram!) I need to find the perfection in myself and everything around me NOT being perfect!

Re: What do you need to let go of?

marn — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 16:14:35 -0000

I need to let go of my 'guard'. Put it down & open up to a wonderful life & love with my husband & kids, and quick walking around so frickin' on the defense like everyone is out to get me.... LET GO OF THE PAST!!!

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Danielle LaPorte — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 16:11:48 -0000

Ohhhhh! Yes. Mary Oliver, Mary Oliver.
Thank you so much for pull up of this gem of hers.

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Anna — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 16:09:52 -0000

I love that Dr. Seuss was even more wise than he was silly!
I am beginning to see a pattern with all of us style statement/designer types: neurotic need for approval leads to perfectionism and fear of rejection, how I relate to those two!
For my own part a sudden split from my children's father 3 and a half years ago allowed me to let go with unprecedented speed and I would have to say grace. Once I stepped out of knowing exactly how my life should be I was able to let go of my identity as someone's wife, consummate hostess, homeschooling mother, political activist, all of it. Relationships that didn't serve, my perfect Martha Stewart-esque image, the beautiful house I designed and help build...So what!! Not that I recommend we all have to burn the house down in order to let go but sometimes a good conflagration really helps.