DISQUS

laurie_matthews · 1 year ago

Their hands, humor, strength and simplicity.

Linda Borland-Fitzgerald · 1 year ago

I love their intellect (not better but so different from the feminine) and their confidence which equates into power - but for me, the most attractive quality about a man is a great sense of humour and possibly, the way they love to take care of us, when we are inclined to let them... sweet and comforting.

Anna · 1 year ago

There's so much to love about men; their sense of humor , their bodies!(especially their arms), their sense of how useful it can be to just be silent.
One of things that tips me over the edge is men's writing, especially what's written for other men. I love Philip Roth, John Updike, David Sedaris, William Faulkner. The Poets: Pablo Neruda, William Merwin, Rumi, Bono. I love their magazines: Esquire, Details, GQ, I have even been known to read Playboy. I love to know what makes them tick, who they admire, what's funny. Why they love women so much. The ways in which they are willing to make light of their own vulnerabilities by allowing us to laugh at them.

Debz · 1 year ago

The way their eyes light up when they see the woman they love - *whisper* I even had a teensy bit of a crush on Ken Barlow from Corrie when he was determinedly wooing Deidre back into his bed... I mean life. Whew. The eyes. Has to be the eyes. And the butt. Totally get the butt. How can they not stand with a mirror just marvelling at it's beauty in another all day long? I would.

Julia · 1 year ago

I like how men can see things for what they are and not "what if" everything to death! I love the way they smell right after a they shave....

I love broad shoulders....

Jess · 1 year ago

I love the way there are no hidden meanings with men. Despite some of our best efforts to "read into" what they're saying or doing, they're just doing it - there's no real hidden message like women do sometimes.
I like that they just want honesty, my boyfriend always says "Just tell me what you want," and when I do, he just says "Okay." They like simple communication (something I'd like to learn to pick up!).
I love how they can be unbelievably goofy in front of you but be normal for their friend so it's like you get to see a special part of them.
I love when they hold your hand, or get all puffed up and ready to fight if some guy grabs your ass at a bar haha!

alligator_kate · 1 year ago

Hmmm.... I think that some men have lots of hidden meanings. My husband, a Pisces, is always trying to decipher the hidden meanings of his colleagues at the office, more men than women. Office politics has a lot of hidden agenda stuff in it (though I LOVE the recent recommendation on this site about the book 'Love is the new killer app' ... and then look at politics, plenty of hidden agendas there. But I do like straightforward men, and it sounds like your bf is one of those! My dh calls em "no b*s* guys", his favorite type to work with, and what he strives to be, too.

Julie · 1 year ago

Jess- So well put! I love how men are more simple with their words and actions (much easier to read than women most times!)

Additionally, I also love the goofy 1:1 time when a guy can be honest, playful and vulnerable. I love that I'm the only person that sees this side of him-- makes me feel so special! :)

weezie · 1 year ago

I love their uninhibited sense of humor and the way their hugs make me feel: secure, protected, and cherished.

licarrit · 1 year ago

To love men is to love puppies, not just the idea of a cute puppy but the reality of messes you'll have to clean up, extra work and time from your day. But the rewards are undying devotion and loyalty, FUN!, morning snuggles, All of it, and more. Good men, emphasis on the good, are more fun and less complicated than most women. I don't mean they are less intelligent but as someone else said they have less of a hidden agenda. They are just happy to love and be loved back.

kim · 1 year ago

I really like this analogy!

debbierodgers · 1 year ago

Their broad shoulders - physically & metaphorically

Joannie · 1 year ago

I love the mystery of the man I love - his 'otherness'. I love his smiles - like quicksilver. I love that he helps others, has given his life in service to others. I love his intelligence, how smart he is, how he loves it when I ask him a question even when he doesn't know the answer.

I can't answer for all men - just this man.

Traci · 1 year ago

I guess the thing that I love about all men is testosterone. I work with 95% women 50+ hours a week, and while I love the partnership women can provide, there are days when I really, really, really need a little testosterone in the room. They provide a balance that I deeply appreciate.

Candis · 1 year ago

The way they use the tools properly.
I could pretty much fix up my place with a high heeled shoe (for nails),a credit card (for the screws and scraping)and some Crest original(to fill in the gaps). Tim always seems to come up with the perfect gizmo for this or that. It is really quite amazing!

aceofsomething · 1 year ago

the way they rub the back of their necks with their hands when they are thinking deeply.

Chantal monte · 1 year ago

Yummmm! I love the way men smell and the sound of their voice. The strength they carry in their body and all the testosterone that pumps in their blood.

Tammy_D · 1 year ago

I love the single-minded intensity and passion men have when they set their minds to something, whether it's figuring out how to build something, grill a steak, or they've set themselves the task of seducing you. They get that intense, focused look in their eyes, they move with a single purpose, and everything else in the world falls away until the accomplish their quest. I love that! And it's a lesson some of us women could use once in a while- multi-tasking sounds great on paper, but sometimes you accomplish more when you just let most of the balls drop and concentrate on one thing at a time. I also love that after men are finished being intense and passionate and forces of nature, they can turn around and do something completely silly and goofy and self-effacing, and it's still endearing and sexy.

Lori · 1 year ago

well said! That focus is always talked about as a negative quality but you are right in that the multi tasking that we women pride ourselves on isn't always "the way"

Ellen · 1 year ago

No woman has ever stopped to help me change a flat tire.

Tammy_D · 1 year ago

Ah, chivalry! Ain't it the truth?

Get Togetha · 1 year ago

Love it!

Shelly · 1 year ago

I think it's men's ability to have a complete disagreement - even get into heated arguements but that it's not seen as a personal attack. Just a difference in opinions. An hour later they'll be laughing and joking around. No obsessing and hanging on.

AmyGuth · 1 year ago

Shelly, that's a great call. So true.

Daniel Gibbons · 1 year ago

Wearing good suits. I'm usually ultra-casual in the office, but I miss dressing formally for work.

Jennifer Sage · 1 year ago

The good thing about this is the sheer novelty when you do wear a suit. Everyone notices how totally hot you look. That is certainly the case for me with my smart casual husband. He appears once is a blue moon in a suit and all I can say is Wow!!!!!!

Wazzy · 1 year ago

How they can be strong and yet tender. How they can be a knight in shining armor. How they treat the women in their lives with a quiet reverence. How much they love food. How sometimes they have so much to carry on their shoulders but they wouldn't trade it for the world. A good father is such a special thing and I am amazed every time I see a man who in one second can be working a high pressure job, the next second cleaning the gutters, and in the next second be tucking in his little boy at night. I love a man's chest, his forearms that show hard work and skill, crinkly smiling eyes, and shit-eating grins.

Elena · 1 year ago

Heyy! Yeah, dead on! These were all the things I was going to say. I love the gentle strength of men... Somehow this seems intrinsically tied to their bodies... a strong chest and broad shoulders, sinewy forearms and big hands that could crush mine if it wanted to; seeing that body that easily takes up a strong and assertive space, in a high pressure job, or pounding nails on a roof in two heavy smacks, suddenly picks up a child or strokes your face with the gentlest touch... nothing is sexier. Wow.

AmyGuth · 1 year ago

I'm not a fan of speaking in generalizations, but...

Men know how to care for themselves so much better than women, generally speaking. Men don't walk around complaining about being stressed-out, they just don't take on anything more until they wrap up the projects at hand. Then, they finish a task and give themselves guilt-free downtime, recharge, then attack the next thing fresh and relaxed.

Darkstryder · 1 year ago

As a man, I would have to say what is great about being a man, is the fact that we can get away with beating up on your "friends" and call it horsing around or football, or basketball or whatever we choose it to be.

we also get a kick out of belching contests betwwen our friends.

But the best thing about being a man is the fact that you can find someone who will accept you for all your grossness and faults and still love you.

Traci · 1 year ago

For the record, men do not have a monopoly on belchinc contests. My sister and I have been duking it out for years. :-)

Darkstryder · 1 year ago

Yes, but we do it better than women do...lol

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storyteller · 1 year ago

I love having my writing dramaturged by DD Kugler, in part, for his "masculine" energy. Also why I'm currently writing a play with Aaron Krogman. It balances my circular, sensual rounded wordy feminine style of writing with angles, forward thrust and clean linear lines. Put the two together, it's good friction. So, like Linda said earlier, an intellect that is not "better" but "different".

May sound strange, but I love to watch a man think. Huddled in some corner, the class Rodin, fist to forehead with ferocious focus. Then that "aha" moment when they stand with a grin and know exactly what to do and how to do it...and then do it. A man of action in all ways, I honestly don't care what he looks like, a man of action is the sexiest thing on earth.

Constance · 1 year ago

I love their sense of humor; the good ones always have me laughing a lot. I also love their abilities to do things I cannot do, fix things and figure how things work or why they don't . Most of all I have loved a few specific incredible men because they loved me back.

lisasonrisa · 1 year ago

I love how becoming a father can turn a man into a lovey-dovey adoring daddy! The way their face lights up when they hear their child call them "daddy", the smile when their child runs into their arms at the end of the day... :)

Keiko · 1 year ago

I love my man's Get Things Done hands and that he encourages me to feel like a "lady" with little doses of chivalry -- like taking out the garbage and opening the tight jar. He calls these "blue" (i.e. boy) jobs. I love it! Especially since I try to be the "I can do anything" girl in the rest of my life.

Lori · 1 year ago

I love their hands and forearms, the way that some of them can just envelope you in a hug and make you feel safe from everything around you, love them freshly showered and shaved dressed for a night out and dirty and sweaty after a day of labour. I just love that they are so, well, manly. yay for testosterone.

Katie Kay · 1 year ago

What do I love about men...hmmmmmmm. Their masculinity, their protective nature. When my husband makes a gesture to protect me or shield me, I get weak in the knees.

Kat the Drumming Diva · 1 year ago

i love how men are more in touch with their lusty desires.

Andrea · 1 year ago

Once of the things I admire most about men is that they know how to take one thing at a time. They don't tend to worry about 20 things at once and become completely overwhelmed, and I think that we women sometimes resent this because we are such worriers. We think that just because he's not worrying about all of it at once, that he's not worrying at all. The reality is that you can rarely accomplish everything at once anyway, so we may as well slow down and take it one, step, at, a time.

colleenoverman · 1 year ago

I like seeing men who are ridiculously kind. A guy chased me down the street the other day to tell me I was dragging my paper napkin (from dinner) on the underside of my boot. I think it must have looked a bit like toilet paper. How amazing is it that he cared enough to stop me. I love a kind-hearted man.

Get Togetha · 1 year ago

I love when a man can express his dichotomy well.

Strength/Wisdom, Humility/Confidence, Nurturer/Provider, Lover/Protector, Ambition/ Disciplined

Kelsey · 1 year ago

I love the curve on a mans arm between his shoulder and bicep/tricep...mmmm. I also get melty from the sound of a deep voice saying my name. I love how I feel safe and protected when I'm with a calm, confident, yet strong man. I love flirting and having lighthearted, yet innuendo-filled, banter with a man I'm interested in. At the same, I totally dig getting into a tech or business-related conversation with a smart guy. And when a guy who has those qualities ends up being a great kisser, too... WOW. Men can be so yummy :)

Pema · 1 year ago

I love that men think past "no." When men get stopped by something, they are eager for the challenge to make it a "yes," to get past the obstacle and get to the goal. Men create amazing possibilities this way, and remind me to keep going when I get stopped.

Katasha · 1 year ago

I love the arms, the emcompassing hug, the way they smell and the strong legs. I love when a man can politely put me in my place with a look, a gesture or a simple "Leave me alone" when I go overboard (and do I go overboard sometimes!). I love a man's SWAG.

Amy · 1 year ago

I love men's bravery and ability to let go and love love love with gusto. The good men I know are an inspiration to me and I try to emulate the easy going parts of them as well as the loyal, true blue parts. I love that men tolerate being blamed for a lot! And I love that so many men I know are driven to learn and open more. I admire the men who have lived a long time and are still around to tell about all their glory stories in the war. There aren't many left but the ones that are are some of the bravest and humble souls in the world. Where would we be without them? It makes me tremble to think about life without the other half...

stella · 1 year ago

I love how physically strong men are. How they can wrap you up in their arms and you feel protected.

Lisa M. · 1 year ago

I love how men can just "get on with it" instead of sitting around moping or obsessing and over-analyzing situations. Men are not gossips. Men encourage each other. Men are programmed problem solvers and generally optimistic. They get things done. They build bridges. They errect towers. They worship at our feet when we treat them with love, kindness (and most importantly) as friends. They say what they mean. I'm a huge admirer of men. Next time around, I am coming back as one of the guys.

fabuleuxparis · 1 year ago

Gosh! So many things! Intelligence, patience, kindness, the outright worship of attrative women, calmness in bad circumstances, chivalry, protection. Of course these things are not in all men, I know. But thankfully I've had good male influences in my life. Daddy, Both Grandfathers and my Husband. :)

Kristen · 1 year ago

Ever notice....they don't need to FIND themselves....hmmmmm

Kate · 1 year ago

I love how men are all little boys inside! When they have a sparkle in their eye I think it's the child coming out.

congakeystone · 1 year ago

One of many things I like about most men is that they say what is on their minds and appear to not worry about what people will think of them (as some people-pleasing people, like myself, do in the workplace).
I love mens' sense of territoriality, their sense of humor, their irreverence, and their episodes of unexpected sweetness.

Cindy - Classic Creative · 1 year ago

Chivalry - there is nothing sexier than a gentleman! Opening doors, pulling out chairs, letting you walk on the inside on the sidewalk, pumping gas, etc...yum!

Tara · 1 year ago

I always love a mans strength (I'm only into 'real men' - you can keep the others). I also love how they keep it simple - a hard day of work, a beer with your mates, and sport on the tv and something with meat for dinner, the perfect day!

alligator_kate · 1 year ago

I love men who are not afraid to cook, push kids in strollers, and who will talk to women about cars or other traditional manly topics without talking down to them. I love feminist men, basically.
I love men who dance. I love big hands, broad shoulders, flannel shirts, old pick-up trucks, as well as men who are not ashamed to get a pedicure if they want one!

Brenda · 1 year ago

Not too much this week.

Will Wright · 1 year ago

That's sad. I hope the men in your life provide you more opportunities to love them next week. Or at least that you find other moments of joy and love in your life.

Funmi · 1 year ago

Their swagger...and strength...and there's nothing quite like having a great debate with an intelligent man.

Kelly · 1 year ago

I love their hands. They seem to tell the story of men before them and the things they will hold, work and love in the future.

Shirley Ann · 1 year ago

What I love about men is something that only some men possess. I love a man's
ability to see women as equals - not just talking the talk, but to be aware of when
women are marginalized...then speak out, or act in such a way to counteract the
injustice. It takes a confident man to to share the world in this way. That confidence
is very appealing.

Patrick · 7 months ago

Shirley Ann...I think there is an ever-increasing number of men out there, that possess that quality. Most of my straight, male friends, seem to celebrate the concept of equality. Many guys even seem okay with a dominant ( as opposed to domineering) woman. It's a turn on.
Things get messy when that dominance comes at the expense of their own masculinity, especially in front of other guys. It's a fine line, but it's there.

jennifersage · 1 year ago

Hello

jennb · 1 year ago

I love the side of men they only let their women see that sweet little boy not trying to impress anyone just being himself

Patrick · 7 months ago

Hey there, I stumbled across this post by accident, and thought I'd share my humble viewpoint.

As a gay male, my perspectives are different, and somewhat nuanced, though no more accurate.
I agree with every post I've read, so far.

I like being a man because of the sense of action, intensity, and confidence the male gender embraces. It's the combination of brains, brawn, and testosterone, that allows a man to be a "guy". Simply put...it's empowering, but doesn't strip us of our sensitivity.

Yes, men are awesome, but that fact in no way detracts from the accomplishments, or abilities of women. It does however, carry a subtle difference. It's a difference that nature designed us to have, and it's encouraging to see it embraced, instead of ridiculed, as is often the case.