DISQUS

LUCiaf · 1 year ago

Young men are making me hot lately. I think it's the unabashed sex drive most of them ooze. Enthusiasm is...oooh...such a lacking thing in marriage sometimes. To have someone look at me naked and say "wow, oh yeah, come here" instead of "hey, can you let the dogs out before you come to bed?"

Carrie M. · 1 year ago

Power - how people who has it act like they don't have it; being totally comfortable with who and what they are. Mature, successful men/women who still blush at unexpected compliments or whispered sweet nothings. Conducting adult, serious conversation over dinner while holding hands under the table. Attentiveness. Men who open doors and who take the danger side when crossing the street. Cigar smoke and vodka. Just a hint of scent on the neck. When my man pretends he doesn't notice when I mingle in a room full of friends and yet he so discreetly searches the room with his eyes in search of me. Freshly laundered cotton shirt, the older the better. Humility. Intelligence. Full, deep voice.

Karen · 1 year ago

Men with the following:
Strong hands, broad shoulders, and nice shoes.
Confidence with who they are/ what they are doing in the moment.
Chivalry - pick up the tab, collect my coat, direct me through traffic by the small of my back...
Who like to dance
Enjoy being role models to children and do it well.
Who do not believe the world is a burden but a physical and spiritual place to be experienced

This has me thinking I need to rewrite my what I need list. I had completed one a few years ago, but a friend liked it so much she borrowed it and never returned it. Manifestation begins with our thoughts - I need to sort through mine again.

Tara · 1 year ago

Confidence and control. Athletic bodies, bare shoulders and a sense of style. I also love all the bridled sexual desire in Jane Austin's novels - and The Girl with The Pearl Earring (the movie) was totally hot!

Jody · 1 year ago

I agree with all who have said male chivalry. I think one of the main reasons I first fell for my now husband was that he was so shy but the moment a door needed opening or we were crossing the street he became confident and chivalrous. He still is to this day and I love it.
Dancing, I feel very sexy when I am dancing whether that be at home in pyjamas or out at a club. Give me the right music and I'm set.
A calf massage, can't explain it but it works.
Seeing desire on my husband's face, works every time.
Confident and carefree people are sexy.

Elizabeth · 1 year ago

Sexy is...

Laughter.

A person with a fantastic smile and a twinkle in their eye.

A rare and honest compliment from a perfect stranger.

Jamie · 1 year ago

Intensity.

Ella · 1 year ago

Sparkly eyes. Jemaine from Flight of the Conchords. Strong hands. Kisses at the nape of my neck. Openness.

Vix · 1 year ago

a man in all one colour outfit loose linen trousers with drawstrings with flip flops and a vneck jumper with nothing but shoulders and a chest underneath.
quiet confidence, looking into your eyes when you talk, opening the door for you and looking at you first thing in the morning and saying hello gorgeous!

corinna · 1 year ago

chivalry. soft butches with swagger. women athletes in shorts, running shoes, and short socks (where the calf tapers to the ankle) - they're strong and capable, which is totally sexy. new love affairs (causing butterflies like nothing else). confidence. hearing what my lover desires about me and being able to say what I desire about her or him. eyes that sparkle. echoing Carrie: people who listen. finally and most definitely: passion, in and out of the bedroom.

Chantal · 1 year ago

intellect, humor, style, movement, creativity, spirituality, intensity, self awareness, diversity, cultured, scents

Becciebeth · 1 year ago

I agree with you totally on the young boys. I actually named my middle son after a cutie, 10yrs. my junior, I often wonder if I should find him and tell him (the cutie, not my son).

Ruth S. · 1 year ago

Beautiful eyes. I melt every time.
A strong voice.
Confidence is so sexy, not matter what the person looks like. Low self-esteem is such a turn-off.
My husband's trust in me.
Raw desire.

Marie Leona · 1 year ago

Men who are not into themselves. Chairs (yes chairs). Candlelight. Confidence. Laughter, especially when its at oneself. Hands (big, rugged hands that shows infinite softness when touching). A glance across the room. Women who ages gracefully.

Kristen · 1 year ago

There's something about my man with his baseball hat on backwards, being unaware of his hotness. And then there's visiting him when he's on duty at the firehall....there's something HOT about a "boy's club"!

Debbie · 1 year ago

I have to admit it - I love men with hair, chest hair, facial hair, etc. It just sends me over the edge. But I also find a sense of humor, self-confidence, independence, maturity, willingness to be vulnerable on occasion, open-mindedness, strong-willed and intelligence sexy too.

Luckily my hubby has all these things ;D

licarrit · 1 year ago

The way my husband knows my body. Neither of us are going to win a "Hot or Not" contest but after 14 years of marriage (5 of those working together daily!) all he really has to do is stroke the back of my neck and my knees buckle. After that, its watching him teach our daughter something -corny but true! Most of the men I find sexy have a broken sort of beauty. And will some one please tell me the secret behind why men get sexier as they get older and as a middle aged woman I feel invisible at best. The sexiest man I have ever known was almost cue ball bald, not 6', and late middle aged (I was in my 20's at the time), and not rich, but women would fight each other to be near him. Carl, if you're out there, you should give lessons!

Wazzy · 1 year ago

intelligence in a man. A little bit of chest hair. forearms. Dark hair. People who are a little bit mysterious. A man who is funny. A guy who loves with reckless abandon. A guy who isn't afraid of his feelings.

Joannie · 1 year ago

My husband calls this quality 'a certain something'. Some men (and women) have it but it doesn't seem to have a name.

A man at the church I used to belong to had it. The women in the church just flocked to him like hummingbirds to nectar. I was no different. He used to kiss all of us at Christmas Eve Midnight mass. The women lined up! No s***.

Jess · 1 year ago

My boyfriend's sense of direction. How he opens doors for me. How he can be goofy, really sexy and really adorable all at the same time. When he's in sweatpants and a t-shirt. When he cooks. When he shows how smart he is. And sometimes, when he's a complete smarmy ass and know its :) I find it funny.

Joannie · 1 year ago

Hands - all different kinds - almond shaped finger nails - short, stubby, strong fingers - delicate, long, slender fingers. Clean nails.

I wrote a poem once about a man's hands. He later became my lover. It's as if I can tell how a man will touch me, make love with me by seeing his hands.

I love writing erotica and love a man who writes it back.

I love SMART. A man who has street smarts and intellect.

I love a romantic man, one who brings me a gift - just for no reason at all.

A sense of humour is very sexy but it must not step over a certain line - a line I draw - then the humour is no longer sexy but vulgar and base.

A man who loves to read.

A man who gives of himself to make the world a better place.

A man with a smile like quick silver.

1EPIPHANEE · 1 year ago

An intelligent, considerate man. Confidence for sure. The intense gaze given when the height of passion has been reached not to mention the climb before getting there. A man willing to show his love for another uncompromisingly and without limits. The low, smooth rumble of a man's voice. The scent of a man while you're surrounded by his arms.

Girl-Woman · 1 year ago

Intelligence with a healthy dose of humor. Unconditional love for children and animals. A genuine smile that warms your heart.

L'Tanya · 1 year ago

A man with quiet confidence (humble swagger), strong hands with a soft touch, a hearty laugh, athletic body, intellect, spirituality, loving fathers (ditto Danielle), bald heads -- and -- Denzel Washington

Colette · 1 year ago

Pierce Brosnan.... Wait a minute, that's "who"

Kirsty · 1 year ago

Oh yeah! That Jermaine...I spent eight months in New Zealand last year and I'd argue alot of Kiwi men are sexy. Oh, and Montrealers.

Krystl · 1 year ago

rumpled smart guys
laughter
eye contact
talent
the beatles
a sense of adventure
yes, danielle! sandalwood!
white cotton panties (unfortunately, i don't think my husband agrees me on this one...)

Suzyn · 1 year ago

naked & happy

Tammy · 1 year ago

Big strong hands. Broad shoulders. A strong chin. When a man runs his hand through your hair at the base of your neck. When a man cups your face with his hands. Watching a man shave. Athleticism. Very little body hair. No smoking! Respectful intensity. Humility and a genuine smile. Being able to laugh at yourself and get goofy without overdoing it. Quiet confidence and a happy disposition. Gentleness with children. Wow, is it getting hot in here?

kim · 1 year ago

hands, mouth, shoulders, maturity, humor, zest.

textimage · 1 year ago

balancing the disarmament of the ego with tapas (burning desire)

Danette · 1 year ago

A creative, confident mind.

And goggles.

CC · 1 year ago

My girlfriends and I have a term for the cute young boy, we call him a "baby twenty". But my husband's intense blue eyes the color of the Caribbean sea is what does it for me. One look from him and I melt....

Cecile · 1 year ago

BONJOUR MES AMIS!!

In a man, I find sexy: intelligence, meticulous grooming, being a good conversationalist and having a good sense of humor. Good looks are a bonus. The mam I married had all of the above. I fell in love with him the second I met him. Yes! He was SEXY!!

Cécile

Cecile · 1 year ago

I am thinking Cary Grant... Oui....tres chaud!!!

Cécile

Linda Borland-Fitzgerald · 1 year ago

I think white cotton underwear on women is truly sexy - not industrial size grannies, but the kind of look worn by Anne Archer in Fatal Attraction. Men in great jeans and bright, white shirt with sleeves turned back and slightly rumpled... hot. Men who are powerful, funny and have great intellect. I have to agree with Carrie who says "..being grabbed by my guy as I walk by." My stomach leaps when that happens, even after 40 years of marriage! How about that..?

Emily Cline · 1 year ago

Laughter. Devoted dads who are hands on, letting mom rest and relax!

Emily Cline · 1 year ago

Amen to all that!!

lisaohhh · 1 year ago

big noses. strong hands. full lips. sparkling eyes. authenticity. confidence. forearms. :)

Kat the Drumming Diva · 1 year ago

represent!
i identified as a lesbian for a few years, but now have found my home as what i like to call a humanist, loving whoever i want to love. and now i'm in a committed relationship with a beautiful, sensitive, fiercely intelligent artist with crazy tattoos who rides his bike all over this earth.
ps - baby butch... hot.

JoeM · 1 year ago

women who take care of themselves; nails, hair, that always fresh look. Those who clearly stand on their own two feet and deliver the message - partner - versus slave. Who have their own ideas about things, but also listen to mine. Those who are gentle, kind, and not quick to anger, who don't take everything personally. A woman who has a good time goofing off, whether taking a walk in the woods of Maine, or window shopping on the Ginza. Someone who can expound on the situation in Darfur or the latest theater opening on Broadway. A woman who loves because she wants to, not as a bargaining chip or in trade for something of equal value. Basically, my wife.

Kat the Drumming Diva · 1 year ago

LOVE the phrase 'broken sort of beauty'
let's face it, model-perfect is borrrrr-ing!
bring on people who look like they've been there, done that, and chucked the t-shirt! people who know who they are, passionate about life, have had their share of heartbreak but made it through to the other side without cynicism. bring on laugh lines and interesting sense of personal style, self-confidence and compassion. it's hot.

Kat the Drumming Diva · 1 year ago

it's called mojo, baby.

; )

Kat the Drumming Diva · 1 year ago

right on!

Ginger · 1 year ago

Intelligence (but not arrogance)
Humor (smart and playful not raunchy)
Physical and Emotional Strength
Enjoys occasional Skinny Dipping and Dancing
Inspired Partner

Kat the Drumming Diva · 1 year ago

... and don't forget irish, australia, scottish and new zealand accents!
smokin hot.

Rushmi · 1 year ago

I find confident men very sexy - the way they stand up straight. The way a man holds your gaze when speaking. A voice that is self assured. I find it extremely sexy when my husband looks at me when I am naked - and he smiles, and my knees go week (even after 10 years of marriage - I still feel it) I find confident women sexy too - a woman who walks in to the room and knows exactly who she is, all the eyes go on her. She doesn't have to be skinny and overly dressed to the nines..she is herself to the core. I find couples who are so strong as a unit very sexy (brad and angelina...)I hope my hubby and I exude that sexy chemistry when we are together. men in suits, men in t-shirts and torn jeans...

Angela · 1 year ago

A tuxedo can make most men look sexy, but I think a white t-shirt and jeans on a guy is even sexier! And some musical talent.

Diane · 1 year ago

Broad shoulders, clean shaven ( or a 3 day beard), tall, great teeth, flat tummy. Tight jeans, cowboy boots. Tailored suits, quietly intelligent, chivalry, men who do the dishes and wash floors or clean the toilet! Sexy music, definately candlite and my man's cologne. Sparkly eyes - a wink, a great massage from my guy.So many things are sexy. A guy who will drink with me Sat. night & go to church with me Sun. morning. Mediterrean food & red wine.Humility. Giving when you don't feel like it.

Susie Hutchinson · 1 year ago

A sense of humour, brilliance and kindness. My husband is the sexiest man alive to me.

Joannie · 1 year ago

Since I can't reply to your reply Kat, 'mojo' is EXACTLY what it is. Now it has a word! :)

Ylen · 1 year ago

Kindness. An unexpected carress. A whiff on the neck. Whispers of sweet nothings.

Cindy · 1 year ago

Men with salt and pepper hair, eyeglasses (a great pair of glasses is so sexy), gentlemen, renaissance men (open to just about anything), smells like he just stepped out of the shower, clothes look like he fell out of a J Crew catalog (most of their clothes and shoes are very masculine and hot), intelligence, and a great sense of humor

Linda Borland-Fitzgerald · 1 year ago

There really is something special about watching dads with their kids - really a turn on for most women. If more men knew what really makes us warm to them, they'd be shocked.. all little things you'd never guess at.

stella tinglin · 1 year ago

Based on the sexy man in my life, it would have to be kindness and the ability to listen. The way he holds my hand when I am crying, the way he looks when he sleeps....

Cecile · 1 year ago

YESSSS!!!!
Cécile

Lisa D · 1 year ago

Chest hair!

The stereo-typical sexiness of Italian/Greek/Spanish men - dark, charming, Antonio Banderas - but DO NOT want that for my real life!

I remember when my future husband was being pursued by a friend's toddler; he scooped her up, wiped her runny nose with a tissue and made her smile. My heart was warmed and my uterus skipped a beat (or was that the other was around?). It was REALLY sexy.

When my husband tells me I make him feel like an eighteen year old...

Lisa D · 1 year ago

Love the drink/church comment!!

Audrey · 1 year ago

Sexiness, I find in the definition of a man's strong arms, confidence not cockiness, warm hands holding mine, a brain full of knowledge and intelligence, a smile & a kiss to brighten my day, a giving heart...

Vanessa Rae · 1 year ago

I think I am becoming very sexy. In mind (I love to read and learn and absorb), In body (I am beginning to take better care of myself as far as eating healthy, exercising, yoga and slathering lotion on everywhere!) and spirit. I'm learning that it's okay to be confident. I was raised to believe that pride comes right before the fall but as I mature and come into my own. confidence is key. It's about possessing yourself, it's about having your own opinion before you seek out another one, it's having the confidence to get back up after a setback and the humility to learn from my mistakes. I think confidence is sexy. I think my husband is the sexiest man i have ever met. He's himself with no apologies yet he will admit when he's wrong and do better.

JSuz · 1 year ago

Competence. In anyone about anything. Passion -- in anyone, about anything. Reading books, in a digestive way where you let the words get inside you and transform you or produce a response. Boys who play instruments ... a total weakness for a bass player. All that intensity! Men who can fix things, because they know how to use their hands, they intuit with them and ... one can only imagine where that could lead! Adventurers. Crinkles around the eyes. Sexy on anyone -- being at one in your skin.

kerrymac · 1 year ago

Nice hands on a man, especially dark skinned with light palms, feet too. Men who sing make me swoon. I pretty much fell in love with every male art professor I had at school. Accents. Asian men in certain movies, men who cook. Nurturing men who take care of their lovers and kiddies. Clean smelling boys, like soap and shampoo, no Old Spice or Mennon deoderants. Curly hair, wild curly hair. Tanned man legs with light hair. Love my guys freckly arms and his Celtic Cross tattoo. www.snickerdoodles.typepad.com

kerrymac · 1 year ago

Don't see Mamma Mia then, seeing him singing Abba was ackward and ruined him for me forever.

Lisa M. · 1 year ago

When someone - through intelligent debate - is able to reverse my opinion of something 180 degrees. Hot.

Oh yeah, and surfers...

licarrit · 1 year ago

Joannie, at parties my mother had there would be this "pool" of women around Carl. Literally, they would just sit at his feet and hang on his every word and melt!

Laura · 1 year ago

Confidence and self-assurance. Men who look you in the eye when they talk to you. Intelligence that invites and engages. Genuine curiosity about life and others.

Laura · 1 year ago

And I forgot to add: white cotton anywhere, anytime.

Kate · 1 year ago

I loved ready all your answers above - Sexy is different to everyone.


For me, it's a man who is chivalrous at all times but respects a woman who takes charge in life or their relationship.

Men who aren't afraid to maybe be a stay at home Dad, instead of expecting the opposite. Those are the men with confidence and check their egos at the door.

A long hug - against a strong chest and comforting arms.

A soft kiss that makes you go "mmmmm, yum!" and want to go back for seconds.

Laying my head on my husbands chest in the morning and the day-old smell of his cologne.

Women who are naturally beautiful and know how to play up their assets without looking fake or too made up.

A good conversation!

Janet · 1 year ago

Integrity, eye contact.
Someone who's in the present, not thinking of something/someone else.
Someone who sees me as a lover, partner and equal, not his mother.
And on the physical side, toned abs right under the chest. A treasure trail down the stomach.... Mmmmm

Carrie McCarthy · 1 year ago

The Girl with The Pearl Earring totally hot, yes. So much tension and beauty!

Carrie McCarthy · 1 year ago

Danielle's hubby in his fireman uniform, sexy.
Love their big strong boots!

Carrie McCarthy · 1 year ago

Denzel's on my list, his walk makes me swoon!

Dena · 1 year ago

Gentlemen and gentle men. Silver hair, blue eyes. Nice amount of chest hair. And Tom.

Katie Kay · 1 year ago

Oh yah young hotties! It is a problem, because I have a 22 year old boy (I do not look at his friends, ick!) and a 19 year old daughter who dates the most beautiful boys I have ever seen. I'm a little jealous! But a man in a fabulous, expensive suit and italian shoes and a starched white shirt with a sexy manly attitude, YUM!

LUCiaf · 1 year ago

Joe, you are an inspiration. You're hot. And you love your wife.

Get Togetha · 1 year ago

Hmmm...humility, commitment, and loyalty and confidence are sexy to me. A man who puts family first is sexy to me (Obama!).

Get Togetha · 1 year ago

You are spot on! It takes man of substance and humility to be able to be a stay at home dad cause its a total role reversal and goes against the grain of what is expected of a man.

Nia · 1 year ago

A gorgeous smile. Intelligence. Sense of humor. Sandalwood. Candles. This is weird, but...exposed brick. Rain. Silence. Mangoes. Peaches. Nutella. Collarbones. Swagger. Fall. Being passionate about a cause. Male teachers.

Colette · 1 year ago

aw, I'm sorry to hear that. I Loved it!!!! Him being totally goofey and akward was great, and I already knew he really did not have some great voice to sing with. The fact that he had to Not be putting on some show or guard only made him all the more attractive to me. I love his personalty just as much as I am crazy about his looks.

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon · 1 year ago

Spiritually, Mentally & Physically STRONG/CONFIDENT MEN!!!!!!!! OMG! Barack Obama, LL Cool J, Joe Lando (the guy that played Sully in the tv show "Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman") and everyday men that take care of their wives, children & responsibilities.....I LOVE THAT!!!

Traci · 1 year ago

Nutella! Love it!

Steve · 1 year ago

Passionate Expression! Insight - awareness. Side of the neck right bellow the ear. Five foot nine. A creative mission. A woman who camps well. Humility. Little to no make-up - Au naturale! A woman who drinks single malt. The perfect long iron approach. When the drummer and bass player find the pocket. Whats the opposite of a pack-rat? A fully stocked organized clean fridge. Openness. Principals. Independent introverts. Intelligence. Dedication to craft - the doers! Initiative. Affection. Prosciutto. A nine dressed up as a three - when a woman doesn't care about making an impression. Comfortable silence on a walk while holding hands in the middle of nowhere...lost even!

Traci · 1 year ago

the backs of necks
homemade borscht in the fridge when I get home from work
small patches of curly hair behind his ears (amidst a sea of straight hair)
attentive blue eyes that, in the time mine notice that the carpet is brown, can see how long the man we're speaking with has been married and how often he travels abroad and why
Benicio Del Toro (don't tell my husband!)
quirks among perfection (Joaquin Phoenix's mouth, Kate Bosworth's eyes)
the way he says "mm...more" when I kiss goodbye too quickly

Keiko Lee-Hem · 1 year ago

Capable hands and strong forearms. When I tell my man he looks hot, then how he carries himself for the rest of the night - with confidence and pride.

Cecile · 1 year ago

Ok, back to sexy.. The actor who played the dfate in The Wedding Date.. Dermott? OMG!!! I sigh!! Especially dancing... Save the Last Dance...

Cécile

roshbosh · 1 year ago

that alchemy of cologne, cigaret smoke, and alcohol - gets me buzzing every time. a confident and mischievous smirk. salt-and-pepper hair. and the scent of skin after a shower. but all of this is nothing without intelligence and a great sense of humor.

Becciebeth · 1 year ago

Chivalry! I am a true Drama Queen (we all are, it's just a matter of admitting it; and liberating)!!! I always wanted to be the damsle in distress, saved by her knight and shining armour. At the hardest time in my life, I met my husband, and while I was not ready to date anyone, he patiently sat by as my best friend for 6 months. He was truely my Prince Charming, helping through some really tough decisions. And while I got what I always wanted, it doesn't hurt that he has the sexiest ass a man can possibly have, with hips to match that I love to hold. Additionally, when he leaves for work all sharp looking and smelling like God, I often ask him if he would mind cutting the grass like that. He is willing for just the opposite, his beautiful birthday suit. Thank God we live in the country with no neighbors....Aahhhhh, he will be very satisfied with the question of day, now that you've gone and got my mind planning a wonderful evening!!!! Thank You!

MD

Cecile · 1 year ago

oh, oh... Now we have gone and created Sex in the Country? AWESOME!!

Cécile

Traci · 1 year ago

Cecile, you should rent The Thing Called Love. Dermot Mulroney is THE. CUTEST. in it. And it also stars one of the All Time Sexiest, Mr. River Phoenix. I think it was made in 1994...oldie but goodie.

Cecile · 1 year ago

Traci. merci mille!!!!! mon ami!! Netflix here I come!! Oh I think him with the little smirk is the sexiest thing... I loved that movie... Also there is a French actor that is the hottest thing in Europe. See if you can rent Moliere! You will love it. Romain Duris.... Very French... Cute... Also try The Beat My Heart Skipped. Excellent!!!!

Cécile

Jennifer Sage · 1 year ago

Isn't it so strange. I find my country men (New Zealanders)mostly as a breed not sexy and I married an Englsihman.
What is sexy? A man who is comfortable in his own skin expressing his honest opinion, relaxed and open. Hand holding in public. Raunchy music with a strong beat; Hot Chocolate singing You Sexy Thing. Mavis Staples singing This little light of mine. almost anything by KD Lang especially Hallelujah. Lying in bed tummy down sipping a latte having my bottom carressed. Certain sounds and words generally but not always heard only in bed. Oh yeah

Jennifer Sage · 1 year ago

All this talk about hair is pretty hot. I just love the smell of a mans pubic hair. Now that is so hot

Jennifer Sage · 1 year ago

Pierce loves his wife and she is a big lady. That would increase any mans hotness:to know you are totally adored no matter how you look according to social norms is so hot.

Jennifer Sage · 1 year ago

Have you ever heard a middle class man from Edinburgh? I once heard one speak behind me and felt such a rush of desire. He was absolutely off limits but the reaction was so strong that I would never go to Scotland cause It may not be safe for me.

Kat the Drumming Diva · 1 year ago

hilarious! thanks for the laugh... it's been a lonnnng day.

marn · 1 year ago

A man who can play an acoustic guitar & sing = YUM! :-P
Any guy that talks about his wife, girlfriend, lover etc with such passion, love and respect I find very sexy...

Candy Lee · 1 year ago

Kindness, soft and strong hands, brunettes!

Jennifer Sage · 1 year ago

This whole posting by everyone is pretty hot, thank you all for an excellent start to me on my New Zealand Friday morning. I have loved reading all the real honesty.

Natasha L · 1 year ago

A deep voice with an accent. Eating peaches in the Mediterranean sea. Dusk. Rain on a hot day. Figs, cherries. Stunning looks + quiet confidence - humility. Having an opinion. Voicing your feelings. When a man cooks...anything. Belly laughs. An unexpected wink.

Acacia · 1 year ago

Intelligence, a wry sense of humor, a love of bad horror movies, love and kindness to animals. Spontaneous acts of affection, especially holding my hand. His breath against my neck. His shy smile when he knows he looks good.

Benita · 1 year ago

Honesty. Willing to take responsibility. Courage to commit and consistent in that commitment. Tall but not too tall. Integrity. Calm strong gentleness. A man who can listen better than he talks. Insight. Blue eyes. Affectionate. Devotion. Kindness to himself and to others. Brilliance. Ability to forgive. Openness to all possibilities. Does what he says. Healthy mind, body and soul.

Wazzy · 1 year ago

Well put. And so true. I loved what you had to say.

Alison · 1 year ago

Gentleness, loyalty, sincerity, closeness. Consideration. When a man's not afraid of his feelings. Understated intelligence. People who listen. Chivalry. Respect. Men who don't react aggressively. Devotion, knowing or heartfelt smiles, intense gazes. I don't know why, but when someone gazes intensely at something, or looks for something and their eyes are more focused, its amazingly sexy.

Closeness, closeness, closeness. When someone really knows their partner, that's sexy.

Liz · 1 year ago

OH let me count the things!

Hands, eye contact, cologne, fresh haircuts that reveal tan lines around the ears, confidence, suspense, intelligence, a cigarette and a drink, a watch on a tanned arm, white linen on a tan body, talking in a whisper, the feeling of words on your ear, the "i must have you" look from my partner, kindness, sensitivity, genuine people, compassion.....and I agree Danielle...PDA's are hot.

Liz · 1 year ago

I agree, nothing can replace the intimacy that comes through closeness....

Liz · 1 year ago

oooh, the wink. Good call. That is hot.

Liz · 1 year ago

I have to agree, older men are very very sexy. My partner is twenty years older than me and not a single one of my peers can even come close to his level of sexiness.

Its the confidence and the self awareness not to mention the salt and pepper hair! OMG, I have to go kiss him right now!

Liz · 1 year ago

That is really beautiful!

Liz · 1 year ago

THank you thank you thank yoU!!! Salt and pepper hair! It is to die for. and Eyeglasses. Good call.

Liz · 1 year ago

oh crinkles around the eyes.....true joy!

Liz · 1 year ago

you hit the nail on the head.....cologne, cigarettes and alcohol....but only with my man. Somehow the mix is magical. I melt. Very well said!

Robert A. Henru · 1 year ago

Carrie, r u the one commenting on my post on public speaking?
I really like your blog, especially the Q&A ideas.
What I find sexy... mmm, women ^^
Otherwise, I won't use "sexy" that often.

Robert

Jen · 1 year ago

Definitely laughter, intelligent, creative men.

Beth C. · 1 year ago

The smell of Green Irish Tweed from the perfumier Creed is sexy. My husband wears it and it just smells like pure male sexiness to me. Beefy man hands and wrists are sexy. Professionally buffed and trimmed fingernails are sexy on a man. I once read that only men who are truly knowledgeable about how to please a woman take such high a level of care of their hands. Men who can cook are sexy. Men who are equally comfortable at sporting events and charity galas are sexy. Men who nurture are sexy.

SRead · 1 year ago

My husband singing and playing his guitar in his Pj bottoms every morning while the coffee's brewing; fit men in Lycra (including my hubby) - one of the benefits of being a cyclist is the view of firm muscular derrieres,and I have fond memories of taking a ballet class with some Edmonton Eskimo football players way back when .....they were absolutely stunning and remarkable to dance with!;glistening hairless skin; white sand and crashing waves; a dark country sky with bright stars; generosity; honesty; clear bright eyes that smile; confidence; sandlewood and coastal breezes

rock girl · 1 year ago

Men who like to spend money on me, and who smell nice. Their own natural scent is fine - NOT icky cologne!!! Also, it is nice if they do not have WAY TOO MUCH body hair.

I used to think tattoos and piercings were sexy, until I met someone who had neither, but he had smooth beautiful skin, and scars from bullet wounds. THAT was sexy. I doubt I will ever come across it again.

Alison · 1 year ago

Miaoww! Having lovely, gorgeous, sensitive things written about you is definitely, definitely sexy.

Alison · 1 year ago

That's lovely! I love hearing about happy marriages, committed relationships have so much more appeal to me, and hearing comments like these is amazing.

ceecee · 1 year ago

The sound of a man rubbing his knuckles against the stubble on his face. It can't be the frantic scratching, but the slow brush against their cheek. Gracious...it drives me wild.

Julia · 1 year ago

oh---a man with a tan! Nota fake tan, but one from working/playing outside...one day's worth of stubble....clean and smelling good...in a pair of faded Levi's and a white shirt that was worn earlier in the week....and if he's holding a baby while his guitar is at his feet, I DO WANT ME SOME OF THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!

Julia · 1 year ago

Oh yeah--the twinkle is irresistable!

Julia · 1 year ago

Charisma?!

Julia · 1 year ago

Karen, if he shows up, could you ask if he has a twin brother?

Suzyn · 1 year ago

So I'm not the only one!

Kim Roth · 1 year ago

heart-centered men, honesty, vulnerability, tenderness, the courage to be intimate, playfulness, a gentle, deep voice whispering in my ear, someone who is completely comfortable in their own body

Connie · 1 year ago

Any man I've loved or do love.

Xai Vicente Charles · 1 year ago

I find honesty, confidence and a good sense of humor very sexy in people. A man who smiles with his eyes and has a great pair of strong hands always gets my attention.

Jennifer Sage · 1 year ago

I just read yr reply to me on another bit of this extensive posting. Of course a man in a kilt who is totally comfortable in his kilt would be pretty distracting in a sexy kind of way. I love that men in kilts dance and play music that is so manly too.

Danielle LaPorte · 1 year ago

very Jack Johnson - some of his new music vids would totally do it for you.

Danielle LaPorte · 1 year ago

I always make sure I look extra hot when I visit my guy at the fire hall - it's a win win, baby.

lezin bogan · 1 year ago

i find a sense of humor and someone who can make me laugh until i almost wet my pants, very sexy. looks are great, i love a nice chest, but can you make me laugh when the chips are down?

Kristin · 1 year ago

Hilarious! I just read this to my fiance (who has this accent as he went to school there) and his cheeks went red! ;)

Kristin · 1 year ago

I'm a couple of days late with this but what fab love is vibe-ing off of this page! Many responses are focused on the opposite sex - and I must say that though I am straight I certainly find women sexy, too. Either gender, when oozing with confidence, a good grin and a wicked sense of humor. And, like Danielle, traditional male chivalry is screaming for a snog.

Ellen · 1 year ago

Intelligence. Humor. Kindness. Kissing, if done correctly.

bene · 1 year ago

I find self confidence, humor and generosity sexy. Honesty and being able to laugh about yourself is also a turn on.

bene · 1 year ago

I find self confidence, humor and generosity sexy. Honesty and being able to laugh about yourself is also a turn on. I have to add voice as well. I was in a relationship with this beautiful, tall and dark man and his deep. husky voice made my day! I really miss that oh so sexy voice in my ear vispering sweet nothings. He had a great body as well, I remember cuddling in his arms. Ok then,big arms and great bod..definetely an asset. Girls just want to be crushed in your arms , guys. And as for chivalry..it is not a question it just is the way it should be. Open the door, pull out my chair and I am all yours , baby!

Anna · 1 year ago

I've always thought firefighters had it goin on, and now that I have a new Firefighter boyfriend, Whoooaaa!! There is something about this tribe of men that is extra hot. Maybe the fact that they are not so removed from the traditional masculine. The adventurer who is also rock solid. Seems to produce a happy and secure sort that I find very sexy. Have yet to visit him at the station. Will pay extra attention to what I wear.

Alison · 1 year ago

This really has been fun. I love the fact that there are SO many responses to this question...