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Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

rock girl — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 21:12:36 -0000

that is so funny!

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Carrie McCarthy — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 17:38:37 -0000

Been there. And my worst times gave me compassion.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Carrie McCarthy — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 17:24:01 -0000

Slowing down is a repeating lesson for me as well and of course many of my treasured ideas are in those slower moments.
Enjoy the ride Pearl!

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

SRead — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 16:59:32 -0000

This one made me laugh.... there must be agreat story behind this one!

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Ellen — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 15:48:05 -0000

I learned to never, ever, under any circumstances, date an Elvis impersonator.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

lezin bogan — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 20:25:19 -0000

my favorite mistake taught me how to love again and not be so cynical.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

rock girl — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 15:11:32 -0000

I learned that just when you think your life cannot possibly get any worse, it suddenly does.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Danielle LaPorte — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 02:58:14 -0000

my spidey sense feels that this is not a walk-away or ditch 'er. It sounds very real - more real than a lot of female relationships tend to be. I find that women usually save the hot-headedness for their men and bite their tongues when it comes to their girlfriends. I think you should get more raw and real and see where it goes.
xo
D

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Angela — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 01:30:49 -0000

I have regrets that, if I had them to do over again I'd say 'Yes' rather than 'No', but I wouldn't consider them mistakes.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

suwo — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 01:13:15 -0000

Wow, Carrie opened my eyes! I grew up with the "not quitting" and once you have made a commitment... Your last sentence hit home for me. I have also really been enjoying the Danielle and Carrie blog.
Thank you ladies!

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Sheri — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 20:03:14 -0000

My favorite mistake taught me to trust myself. I bought a one-way ticket to Paris just after college and "ran away from home". I hated my family, I was sick of Kansas and I was just madmadmad...I fired them all from my life. I knew no one in Paris and had no job to run to...just the address of an agency that placed au pair girls. Getting settled was a nightmare and what ended up being the best 2 years of my life started off as the worst.
What I learned is that when the pressure is on, I can and will show up. I learned that my instincts are good and can be trusted. I learned that sometimes a city and a language choose you...not the other way around.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Jennifer Sage — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 19:04:55 -0000

There is that little adjective that qualifies mistake; favourite. My favourite mistake is looking back at the far too much I have spent over 40 years on interior decorating and house alterations. All learning and creating beautiful spaces. Wandering into the loveliest of spaces in shops exploring touching, smelling, looking.

I have let it go now. Have turned my focus toward fashion, clothing and adornemnt since my style statement was done seven months ago. My life has more balance and "rounded outness" ALL the little boxes at the top of this page need time and space to create a life that is fully lived.

Oh and my answer would be different if you asked me my worst mistake.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Lisa M. — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 18:47:27 -0000

You're right. I think that's the whole point of the question. What we think might be mistakes, can sometimes turn out to be the best decisions, thus, favourite mistake. That's how I interpreted the question.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Kris — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 18:18:15 -0000

I don't know if I'd really count it as a "favorite" mistake because it took years to completely stop hurting, but... loving someone who didn't love me back was the "mistake." Not letting the rebound relationship BE a rebound relationship was the "favorite" part. Years later, we're still together and I can't imagine how I ever fell for the other guy to begin with.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Becciebeth — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 17:52:11 -0000

You can't make yourself love someone. I love this mistake I made because I never really knew what love was or felt like until I met my husband. Natural true love is the greatest gift to give and be given. Also, you can't (and now know it's best not to try), to change someone. Instead loving the qualites you feel the need to change, just may turn out to be the qualities you most respect. I found all on my own, to look at that quality and act or think for a moment if that was you. I've learned to respect the saying, "Until you have walked a mile in their shoes, don't judge". Matthew 7:1-2. I dislike when friends of mine get divorced after 10 years of very hard emotional work, only because of a quality they don't like of their mate, which was there from day one. I could go on and on with this subject. But that's a personal growth point for me. I deserve a gold star sticker!!!

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

weezie — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 17:29:46 -0000

Are you sure your friend is not my brother? I've finally decided to always leave the door open in case he changes his ways and wants to be part of a family again, but I will not initiate any contact. I have no room for toxic relationships!

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

LUCiaf — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 16:39:42 -0000

thank you so much Kat and Emily. Wise words. If it was a man he'd be so gone years ago. I'll continue to ponder, as this relationship has many wonderful things to it too. Sigh. Humans! Complex beings, us. Love and thanks, Lu

PS Kat, your submissions re: what turns you on the other day, were so hot. I actually got a little flushed.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Daniel Gibbons — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 16:38:13 -0000

Never behave as if something has happened until it actually has. Particularly if it involves anything to do with money and finance.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Cecile — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 16:11:14 -0000

Why does this constitute a mistake? I think it was a wild card that you played and came out a winner...

Cécile

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Gina — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 15:39:49 -0000

Well when you call it Favorite that sorta changes the direction of thinking. I love the learning process in just about everything, but it's more of the heart breaking mistakes that stand out in my mind... and one in particular. I can just say I have grown and am more easily able to recognize my hast. But in no way would I want to go through it again... it's the only decision in my entire life that I could wholeheartedly say I wish I hadn't made.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Kat the Drumming Diva — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 14:59:27 -0000

i just think this sounds like your friend is working out some kind of unresolved anger/hurt/frustration on you, and it's manifesting itself as verbal (or written, via email) abuse.
there's no end in a relationship like this. she behaves abusively toward you, you take it, and neither of you are better off.
sometimes we accept behaviour from others that's only slightly worse than how we treat ourselves. and maybe that's what you could gently look at: is there a part of you that feels you deserve to be treated this way?
i can tell you with all confidence that no one deserves any kind of abuse, period.
you could create a new personal boundary: that no one's allowed to speak to you (or write to you) in a way that makes you feel sad/angry or bad about yourself and what you believe.
sending you love & compassion,
kat

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Emily Cline — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 14:53:40 -0000

I might have to agree, though I'm sure it's much easier in thought than in action. Maybe something to consider: would you stay with a man in a love relationship if he treated you this way, if the two of you interacted the same way as you and your girlfriend do? Tough stuff... Good luck. Take care of you.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Emily Cline — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 14:49:32 -0000

I don't think that's weird at all! In fact, I would cite the same mistake for myself. It certainly isn't behavior that I am proud of nor would I do it now, but I'm glad I did it. (sorry, Neil!)

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Lisa M. — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 14:46:01 -0000

Quitting my job and moving overseas to have an adventure. BEST thing I've ever done. I was worried it was a mistake (worried about getting a job when - or if - i returned). Definitely my favourite mistake. I'd do it again in a heart beat.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Keiko Lee-Hem — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 14:39:59 -0000

My long list of past boyfriends would really count as my "Favourite Mistakes". Each one taught me more and more about myself, what I like, what I dislike. My "must have" list became really clear and now I'm with a guy who fits the bill in all the most important ways.
Another favourite mistake was traveling through Europe on my own. "Mistake" because my naivety got me in some (seriously) sticky situations (let's just say I was happy to come out in one piece!) "Favourite" because I can really say I came out stronger (I survived that!) and more aware of what's important to me.