Carrie and Danielle - Latest Comments in What are you afraid of?

Re: What are you afraid of?

Andrea Devis — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 13:38:26 -0000

No, not Steve! Maybe Steve's teeth, but not Steve.

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Beth C. — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 18:54:49 -0000

I am afraid of dying young and/or childless. I'm also afraid of missing the opportunity to have children. I have always felt that I was meant to be a parent and my spouse and I are currently struggling over whether now is or is not the right time. I've come to know that the right time is when we open our hearts to allow things to happen.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Amanda | Cultivated Grace — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 01:14:13 -0000

Thank you to everyone for all of your support and encouragement! It truly, truly makes a difference. I feel like there's a reason why I have been given everything I have been given in my life, both the positive and the traumatic. Recovery can be painfully slow at times (and now is one of those times), but at other times I experience bursts of growth and exuberance that defy words. I still don't understand the rhythm of this recovery spiral, but I am beginning to learn how to trust it.

Cindy, I haven't seen the Vagina Monologues yet (not for lack of wanting!), but I will definitely check Eve Ensler out. I wasn't aware of her background. Thank you for pointing me in her direction.

Peace to all, and thank you.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Catherine — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 22:16:54 -0000

I'm afraid of being alone. My husband has lung cancer and and often my thoughts are consumed with the realization of one day having to make it on my own. I'd like to be better at asking friends for their time and company. I'm working on it daily.

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Danielle LaPorte — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 19:44:03 -0000

regret sucks. ditto on the fear factor.

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Joannie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 19:35:38 -0000

Thank you Carrie. I've been told before that I'm brave. In the past I've wondered how it was that I couldn't see it! Now I can.

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Kerry L. — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:56:39 -0000

I fear regret. I fear realizing in the future that I wasted time not appreciating what I have. We all know people who remember "the good old days" and say, "Man I didn't know how good I had it then! I complained about my health/spouse/job/whatever and I wish I had now what I had then." I fear turning into that person. So I try very hard to live in the moment and be grateful today.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Cindy — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:37:03 -0000

You may want to read some of the books by Eve Ensler - the creator of the Vagina Monologues - because she had a very similar background. I heard her speak in person, and she was extremely powerful. She channeled all her fears and challenges into helping women all over the world that have been abused. I hope that you find the help that you need to be your wonderful, fully realized self!!!

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Cindy — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:27:30 -0000

Hi Jenny. I am a writer to, and the best quote I ever heard was "There is no "right" way to write, there is only your way". The problem comes when we try to compare ourselves to others - after all, William Shakespeare did not have to compare himself to William Shakespeare. I believe that if you speak from the heart and speak the truth, you will find your audience. Good luck!

Re: What are you afraid of?

Carrie McCarthy — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:15:19 -0000

"What do you want more of?" is a question we ask in Style Statement and many, many people answer - more time! Consider the fact that we all have the same 24 hours in the day. Given that, what can you eliminate, or let go of in order to make room for your strongest desire?

Re: What are you afraid of?

Connie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 17:45:13 -0000

Amanda, if you have a good therapist, you'll control what you want to bring up each session and you will probably do it very slowly. I'm with you. Be well. You sound like you're very self-aware now.:)

Re: What are you afraid of?

Connie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 17:40:08 -0000

I'm afraid of highways; losing my eyesight; something awful happening to one of my children or grandchild; poverty and dying alone. I think that's enough fear for me.

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weezie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:35:15 -0000

Yikes! Clowns scare the bejeezus out of me, too. They don't even have to smoke or drink.

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Kristin (the Goat) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:19:43 -0000

I'm sorry to say that I have no journals. They are all gone - but I never had more than one at a time anyway. Even workbooks that I've had (you know, those self improvement workbooks) I've burned those as well. I love a nice webber grill. I know, it would be so wonderful to look back and see my progress. I have just recently purchased a journal that is a 10 year journal - you only have 5 lines a day to write in. That one, I'm not going to burn...but it is mostly just a record of the days events. I really make sure that each word I write I want to be read. It is totally sad that people feel the need to read such personal writings. I do not agree that just having one is an invitation. Thanks so much for the reply. I've often wondered if anyone else had ever had this problem. I guess so.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Kristin (the Goat) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:14:55 -0000

I was kind of quick to say this morning that not being able to write in a journal squashed my growth - I must have had to grow in other ways. I do appreciate you replying to this message. Thanks - Thanks a lot!

Re: What are you afraid of?

Carrie McCarthy — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:11:03 -0000

"fail to plan, plan to fail"

You are on your way now that you have married your ability to plan with action!! Congrats Anna.

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Carrie McCarthy — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:01:01 -0000

Ah Joanie, so beautifully said. You are brave!

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Kelly — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 15:38:16 -0000

While there are many fears in my life: heights, spiders, choking to death, being out of control...
My greatest fear is that I will leave this earth while my children are young and they will be without their mother. Or worse yet, they won't remember me.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Kerry — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:47:38 -0000

Amanda, being able to give a voice to all the fears gives you power! It's okay to own the fears, then they can't own you. You're already succeeding, you go!

Re: What are you afraid of?

Julia M — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:36:06 -0000

My father suffered 'total' aphasia after a stroke - it was tragic. Thinking of this I am reminded of the value for me to say all that I need to say now especially to those I love. I wish I could know the future - I suppose - the most challenging aspect is that all I am certain of is now. So I can communicate now because I am able - a celebration.

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Julia MacLean — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:23:43 -0000

I have a phobia of going up into handstand - I am petrified by the thought of it even before my yoga instructor instructs us to go up - I place my hands down and then, no matter the effort, I am unable to lift my hips above my head - it seems that I contract into a solid mass of fear. All this inspite of my ablity with headstand and elbow balance. I have been able to go up into handstand by throwing myself up from a standing position but with a spotter beside me. I am afraid of my back, my arms letting go, getting crippled.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Lindsey — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:13:16 -0000

Loss of freedom! This shows up in my relationsip, as resistance to sharing my life deeply. I'm working on seeing my lovely, gentle boyfriend as supportive wind for my wings, instead of as someone I need to lift up.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Steve — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 13:57:36 -0000

The sensation of being cornered or repressed - small places - heights - not having a choice which is ridiculous because we always do - clowns that smoke cigars and drink whiskey - losing my keys - regret - losing my sense of intuition and insight - illness.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Caroline — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 13:32:48 -0000

i am with carrie on this one. mine is slightly different, in that i fear being misunderstood by certain people- especially those who have a tendency to bulldoze and who intimidate rather than connect when a misunderstanding occurs. i am facing a situation in which i will have to engage with such a person, and am aware just how much in scares me to have someone not get what i am trying to say. as if i will not exist fully in that moment if my words aren't taken in as i wish them to be.

a strange thing to fear, i realize, as i sit here writing this.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Kristin — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 13:17:46 -0000

But you ARE unique - only you see things through your eyes. Make a list of things that make you different, your experiences, travels, style, friends, relationships - those all make you worthy of a story. Just be true to yourself, tell the story you must tell the world, and be patient. Once you put yourself out there, the world will respond.