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Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

GenuineTreasure — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 12:57:57 -0000

You are wonderful just as you are. Experiences are much more valuable than "things".

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

Karen — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 12:15:36 -0000

That turning the other cheek when someone does you wrong doesn't involve staying for them to do it to you again. Move on. Stay true to your own style but keep up with the times - music to fashion. Always dress for the job you want in the office and don't stray from your goals just because they are more extraordinary than your counterparts.

And get rid of the over sized house or at the very least 70% of the stuff in it. You CAN live without out it and after a month or two you will forget you ever had it or thought you needed it.

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

Meredith — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 13:55:58 -0000

I would tell 18-year old me...
- that wonderful, beautiful first love you are going through is real and should not be minimalized because you think you're too young and the big love you are now realizing you have the capacity to give and let yourself receive should be your standard, not an exception.
- Time runs out. Don't let moments be squandered because you're too afraid to grab them. Grab life now and jump in!
- You ARE just as talented and smart and beautiful as the girls you think you're not good enough to be

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sheerperfection — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 00:16:36 -0000

You are beautiful, smart, and loved. Perfect just the way you are- Love yourself

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

candylee — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 19:28:52 -0000

Be more adventurous, go meet new people and travel around. Stop comparing yourself to others. Ask more questions. Keep wonder and joy in yourself.

Although conversely, I think myself 10 years ago has a lot to teach the 'me' of today...

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

CamillaOnell — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 18:55:06 -0000

Don't marry him. Laugh more. It's ok to make a lot of money. It's ok to be a bitch.

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

Traci — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 18:18:50 -0000

This question has been on my mind all day. Man alive, it would have been so much easier to tear down a screen than a wall. What was I thinking? I gained nothing from being so guarded. Sigh.

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

Carrie — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 18:08:51 -0000

Ditto! Either in or out!

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

AnnieMueller — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 18:06:30 -0000

(I was 18, just starting college). Spend more time with your Mom. (She died of breast cancer last year). Get into a sport or something that stretches your comfort zone. Make friends with all kinds of people. Burst your bubbles and make your life bigger. Write, write, write. It's in you. Don't worry about fitting in; you'll figure out soon enough that's a myth! Just enjoy life, be crazy like you really are, and you'll find the people you need to find.
Oh, and yeah, don't waste your time on those guys you meet in college. You already know who the love of your life is, so just give him a little time. He'll be there at the right time. (He was. We met when we were 14. Crush at first sight and it lasted!)

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

colleenoverman — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 17:25:12 -0000

You are a writer, so be a writer. Submit your work and get published. Be brave enough to be who you are and let your light shine. Do what you love and focus on what you love. And I agree with Danielle: your feelings are everything. Attend to them.

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NGONZI — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 15:46:38 -0000

Dr. Ngonzi Truth!!!

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DanielleLaPorte — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 15:34:49 -0000

just declare yourself as Miss Fisk right now. or make your own new title 'n crown!

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DanielleLaPorte — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 15:31:17 -0000

...and I spent a fortune on it. I also had some yellow leather studded boots...bad...very bad.

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

DanielleLaPorte — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 15:29:41 -0000

what? you're not Bridget Jones? re: "Stop thinking you have to get everything right in the next six months." -- most excellent advice at any age (unless you're dying...)

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Storyeller — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 15:10:45 -0000

If he isn't pursuing you, he is not worth pursuing. End of story.

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Christine Arylo — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 13:41:06 -0000

Listen to your intuition - she is not lying to you. I dont care if you dont like what she has to say, she is trying to do what's best for you!!! At the age of 27, it would have saved me from being dumped two hours before my engagement party at the age of 30. If I would have listened to my inner voice of wisdom saying, you dont want this life and this guy, I would have been the one to leave on my own accord... and although it would still have been painful, it would have been more like a 2x4 than the Mac Truck. Today, I know, my intuition... well she is my BEST friend - B/F/F

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

Mackenzie — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 13:20:08 -0000

Worry less; think 'what if' less and just 'do'.

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NGONZI — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 13:08:02 -0000

I was 17 yrs old going to college: Fisk University!!!

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NGONZI — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 13:07:57 -0000

Don't listen to those people who say "where is your boyfriend" "Do you have a man?"
HAVE FUN! BE YOU! LIVE LIFE! WEAR BRIGHT COLORS! TRAVEL! LEARN EVERYTHING YOU CAN! BE FOCUSED! SPEAK YOUR MIND! STAND UP FOR A CAUSE! TEACH BY EXAMPLE! LEAD DON'T FOLLOW THE CROWD! PUT GOD & FAMILY FIRST! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! RUN FOR MISS FISK UNIVERSITY! SELL THAT CANDY, CHIPS, POP OUT OF YOUR DORM ROOM! ( LOL ) KEEP IN TOUCH W FRIENDS! HANG WITH ALL TYPES OF PEOPLE/SOCIALIZE IN ALL DIFFERENT CLIQUES! LEARN FROM THE PAST, LIVE IN THE MOMENT, LOOK TOWARD THE FUTURE!

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

Acacia — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 12:40:48 -0000

Stop judging yourself, and letting other judge you. Say no. Don't let guilt keep you in unhealthy places.

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

emily — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 12:23:03 -0000

Dump him. Go to L.A. Quit that job. Don't get tied down. Find a way to laugh more. Be creative in any way you can. And work your body! It's awesome. (p.s. lol about the yellow jacket!)

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

misspenny — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 12:22:30 -0000

hmmm it's ok to take care of myself first. it's ok to leave, it's ok to stay, it's ok.. just do what feels right..for me.. stop caretaking!

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

Rebecca Gaffney — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 11:55:16 -0000

Date as much as possible and don't be afraid to give yourself to your career.

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Cobby — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 11:52:04 -0000

I'm with Carrie. I too would tell myself to have a baby. There is in fact no perfect time to have a baby other than when we choose to open ourselves to it. I think the perfect timing issue is why the human body requires nine months, give or take a little, for gestation.

Re: What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

fabuleuxparis — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 11:51:50 -0000

There are NO shortcuts in life. Do not expect anyone else to take care of you. Do not expect anyone else to help you. Do not expect anyone else to make your dreams come true. MAKE your dreams come true. Never give up your dreams. But do them yourself. Save money.
Marriage is often a financially draining disaster. If you get married make absolutely, totally, 100%, certain you are completely in love with the guy and are willing to give up A LOT. If you have un-realized dreams in which marriage would become an inconvenience, do those things first. Be true to yourself. Believe in yourself.