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Yes guys, some girls do still appreciate this behaviour and this is something I find very attractive in my husband.
We have another 'new' tradition, which is really fun because we open our gifts early Christmas morning. So, this one gives us one more thing to anticipate at the end of the day - each person gets a 'table gift' which is placed by their dinner plate. It can be something special or just a silly toy.
We still do all these things ... and our daughter is 38 years old. These are things she grew up with and will pass down to her own family one day.
I have my mother to thank for my career as such as even in the 1950s she was a strong believer in "girls getting a qualification" years ahead of her time really. I guess nursing and midwifery are pretty conventional careers for a woman and i have never been seriously tempted to try anything else.
I can lay claim to being pretty unconventional in my pioneering home birth in the city I live in. That Was way way outside convention in the 1970s. No one who knew me was surprised and why would they be?
C & D, I love this question. I feel like I am fairly traditional on the surface but somewhat anti-conventional in more deeply personal matters, from my wedding ring to my thoughts on spirituality. That being said, I too adore ritual, domestic and religious, and have sought out as an adult those things that were not part of my life growing up. A sense of connection, that seems to me to be one of the best gifts of conventional rituals.
This subject reminds me of my roundly questioned choice of a china pattern (how conventional to have one in the first place!) when I got married: Old Country Roses by Royal Albert. My friends and family couldn't quite understand why I would select the most common, dated pattern possible. Only my mother-in-law, who is older and a serious Southern matriarch, seemed to appreciate that it reminds me of my great-aunt and the smell of old houses and the idea of family roots running deep into place and time.
Now that I think about it, sending text messages is rather unconventional in and of itself... oh well. I tried.
I love Christmas and Thanksgiving traditions...we always have these particular buns, have a particular party at my aunt's on Christmas Eve.
Traditions keep the crazy world feel like there's a semblance of stability.
But even being unconventional by nature, our family still has some conventional habits. I suppose the way in which we are most conventional is the careers we are working towards. While we are students not I don't know if a couple can be more conventional (occupation wise) than a lawyer and a professor!
Yet.
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I'm also like Chelsey, I'll always spell out words in texts and IMs. I tried once or twice to do it the short, quick way in a text and just couldn't bring myself to hit "send" until I'd gone back and fixed it. To me it's a sign of respect, and if what I have to say is that important, gosh darnit, I'm going to say it right (and appreciate when others do so in return).
As for day-to-day things...I really enjoy being married to someone I've known since I was 17. It was wonderful to grow up together. I enjoy the fact that we've combined all of our family holidays and traditions.
and my sterling silver teapot that was passed down to me. I love polishing it and we use it every day.
But I am SO traditional. I love Christmas, like so many others have said today. I love the smell of a living Christmas tree, lights, beautiful decorations on and off the tree. The beauty of the church dressed for Christmas together with the gorgeous stained glass, polished floors, candles. The ritual - sacrament of the Eucharist.
I love a beautifully roasted turkey with deep brown crispy skin, bread stuffing, cranberry jelly - homemade.
Pumpkin pie with whipped cream for Thanksgiving - which in Canada is this week-end.
I send beautiful cards - a tradition carried over from my little Mom. I say Thank you to both loved ones and strangers.
I sing 'Happy Birthday' over the phone to a select, elite group of family and friends. One of my cousins asked to be removed from the list! :)
I'm stealing the plate gift idea for this Christmas.
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I am saddened when I hear women railing against the male sex in general for years after the end of a marriage. I had a "starter" marriage did the blame thing until I woke up and took responsibility for my part in the sad and sorry mess I had made.
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There is something deep in a women's soul that intuitively knows these things. The lighting of the Sabbath candle in Jewish home that is always done by the women. We, women, are earth and water but we welcome the fire and air into our lives in a very beautiful way.
I've been married twice and deeply in love three times; twice widowed and one divorced I still hold out dreams for finding love again.
My New Years ritual - a long seaside walk alone and at the end, dangle my toes in the icy water to wash away my undesired attachments.
There is a 15 minute window every morning that is never missed. It's not planned, completely unintentional, but it happens nevertheless. It usually revolves around building a road map for the day...or purging something that triggered me the day prior. An exercise to help me "Live in the Now"
Being kind is gracious behavior and allows people to live happily without tension and stress...it is about being truely loving and a convention well worth practicing.
"Ginn"
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Christmas - LOVE IT! I get so excited about the get together with 14 of us every year (since we were small children, we get together with the same siblings, and cousins, aunts, uncles, etc). One of our BIGGEST traditions is playing charades at Christmas. We have the guys VS girls. We all write down 20 - 40 topics, they go in the toque, and we pick & play against each other. We don't keep score, or use a timer, we just do it for the fun. Most hilarious one (which each team ALWAYS puts in the toque) is "Hockey Night in Canada". As soon as someone acts out a slap shot, the whole room yells out "HOCKEY NIGHT IN CANADA"! Good times.... :-)
That aside, I like to keep things pure and simple, and enjoy traditional celebrations. Old-fashioned Christmas with a Christmas tree and fairy lights and a fireplace and cold weather.. eggnog, spice. I love birthday cake covered with candles, and I wish more people had such a pretty thing as a home made cake for their birthday. I'm very traditional about marriage and pairing up for life. I take the concept of marriage vows very seriously. I've always aspired to having a fulfilling and lifelong marriage.
Oh! And good old-fashioned romance. Flowers. Being carried, being taken care of, consideration, thoughtfulness. I simply must find myself a gentleman. Chivalry, daring, morality... A base in all that is good and pure. Gentleness. Books. Education!
Great question!
I even text this way. No one has said anything about it, except, "r u mad @ me?" No, I'm just ignoring your inane, phonetic hieroglyphics. Ugh.
I will not do the calling; if he wants to talk to me, then he will call.
I also stick to seasonal fashion rules as well. Seersucker goes to the back of the closet the minute Labor Day is over. Manis and pedis between September and February are dark, dark red or plum or charcoal.