DISQUS

Traci · 11 months ago

Beautiful. Thank you, Carolyn!

DanielleLaPorte · 11 months ago

burn the list. light a match, right now. lists get in the way of your heart and smarts.

Elisabeth · 11 months ago

yes!! It's important to know your deal-breakers, otherwise you could waste a lot of time being unhappy without knowing why. But most lists are garbage. I always thought my partner would be 2 inches taller and 2 years older than me, so when the right man came along I didn't recognize him. 2 inches shorter, 16 years older, bald and unemployed - who knew? I just married him after almost 10 ridiculously fun, passionate, and adventurous years together. Still having the time of my life. :)

jmcdormand · 11 months ago

I love this. It is so true. My husband would have never made the "list" I made in my single 20's. And Thank God for that! I threw the list out the window when I looked around and found list was keeping me single...and there he was.

Carrie · 11 months ago

I don't believe in soul mates and lists prevent one from being present to the unusual, the mysterious and the suprises in life. Well said Carolyn

MoJo · 11 months ago

Strangely - I wrote a list in 2001 and when I dug it out a little while ago, my husband was all of it, and more. I found it a really useful exercise, and the main points on it haven't changed. It was actually a good way to reflect on myself as well. I'm all for the list!

Online Dating · 9 months ago

I think accepting the flaws of your partner would get in the way of your list. As long as you don't see negative with your partner everything would be wonderful. Our partner is our choice, after all there can be no perfect partner. We get to love a person for who he is.