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Carrie and Danielle: Ignore Me: Using the Four Agreements to Combat an Unreturned Call

  • DanielleLaPorte · 1 year ago
    Hot topic. I think that in our culture of email instant-ness, people have ridiculous expectations about response time. Sometimes it takes me weeks to respond to a personal "letter" from a friend in Spain. Just like it used to when I used paper and a stamp. I take my time, I sit down with a tea and I compose something thoughtful....something...worth the wait. THAT SAID, I have also created the "one minute habit" this year, which has been hugely helpful in managing communication. A few pissed emails from Style Statement readers to the effect of "did you get my email?!" got me in the habit of at least saying "got your email, will get back to you..." If you can answer it in under a minute - then do it.
  • Danette · 1 year ago
    Yes, the "under a minute rule" was great advice I read in Getting Things Done.

    This post is a great reminder about perspective and compassion. I have been on both sides of the over-delayed email response, and it is such a gift to be met with compassion rather than barking and resentment. I try to be compassionate with those who delay responses to me. There is a lot of stress in the expectation to be in constant communication.

    What happened to all that time we were supposed to be saving with such advances in technology?

    Thanks for this post. Timely for me, for sure.
  • Storyteller · 1 year ago
    Under A Minute rule is an excellent idea! I'm going to add that to my skill set! Thanks Danette and Danielle. xo L