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Carrie and Danielle: If You Write It, They Will Come: 5 Easy Steps to Finding the Love of Your Dreams

  • Ray · 11 months ago
    What a great tool 'Focus and Find' but let's not confine it to singles a modified version could also work for long-married/together couples. You know the ones I mean those who wake up one day and seriously wonder 'What the hell did I see in this stupid git?" followed a few days later by an emotional response that chokes the breath out of them when they realise the accident they're watching on the news involves a car that looks a lot like their partners. Sometimes life and responsibilities get in the way and negativity rules. A tool like this would allow you to focus on what was and what could be; a chance to bring back the old magic. I think it could work.
  • MoJo · 11 months ago
    That is so true - I didn't think of it being applied in that way, but it would serve well there too! Thanks Ray :-)
  • storyteller · 11 months ago
    great article! Love the Jung quote and the idea of thinking about "what if you don't meet your soul mate" and examining the fall out of that. So glad you met the man who met your list...there is hope for us all out there. Thank you Monika! xo L
  • FionaJane · 11 months ago
    Great read!
    I distinctly remember using the phrase "you'll just know" and considering the latest research is leaning more towards a physiological response in the brain when meeting your intended mate, I still believe that to be true.
    After swearing off of all men I had decided that I could very happily be single forever. Then I met my beau. I just knew, lol, and after 26 years together, I still know.
    Thanks for reminding me just how lucky I am :)
  • Terry D · 10 months ago
    Monica,

    Great advice/story.

    I have to say that without a doubt #1 was the most important for me. Just chilling out and stepping back from constant dating was the biggest thing in finding that path to the right person. Stopping myself from dating everyone that came along so I wasn't bored or alone made me open and available when the right person did come along. I really didn't do steps 2, 3 or 4 as described, but I did look back and my many "failed relationships" to figure out some of what I was NOT looking for anymore. Then step 5 sort of came naturally when I did meet the right person, when I was in a mental/emotional state that she was really meeting me.

    keep writing!