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Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Michelle — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 11:39:13 -0000

L'Tanya, thanks for your openness... I like my body but started having body issues when some males said some things about my weight. I'm not large but it affected me strangely. I guess it means that there's a sensitivity there and that's OK. Instead of shrinking from it or becoming discouraged, I'll continue exercising, eating well and enjoy my body by choosing fashions that suit my style and make me look great! I'm also going to release any male who can't treat me well. Your words have encouraged me to be able to do that. Thanks.

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Natasha — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 15:56:51 -0000

On the idea of hesitation, I have been struggling with that for years. I am constantly editing myself and trying to appease others. But when I realize I am doing this I remind myself that this may be the last chance I have to do it. I am not quite twenty yet and I am trying to deal with my own mortality after dealing with a few too many philosophical thoughts. The conclusion I have ultimately come to is to decide whether or not I will regret doing/not doing something and mitigate the risk.

Taking the chance when I have it. I usually hesitate and my immediate reaction is usually to say no but I'm working on it. The power of yes is truly amazing. I have already been across the country and back and I am always amazed by the interesting people I meet when I am willing to initiate a conversation that has the potential to be awkward, but then, isn't.

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in awe — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 23:15:06 -0000

thank you for this post

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Dan — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 01:01:42 -0000

Why would I do anything differently if I truly believed that I was enough? I would try to make everyone I care about believe that that they were enough.

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Don — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 11:47:06 -0000

LIVE like I knew that I was going to die.

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kerrymac — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 23:31:23 -0000

I would learn to play the piano and guitar and sing...I would let me voice be heard and not just clam up and mouth the words when someone looked my way. For my third son's dedication I felt led to sing and my lovely songstress friend Abbie helped me learn Continue to Love Me...I sang it in front of my whole (very critical family). The day was exactly how I wanted it to be... a cabin in the woods, family and a couple dear friends, casual prayer and worship and fun. Letting go of the expectation of a church Christening and picking exactly what I wanted to make the day special was a little taste of what's out there id I can find that wholeness that L'Tanya speaks of. I want more now! www.snickerdoodles.typepad.com

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Princess — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 19:08:05 -0000

If I believed I was good enough....hmmmm this is a hard one. If I believed I was good enough, I could walk away from people who make feel anything other than happy. I would dance everyday and love every minute of it. I would open a dance studio and not be scared to fail. If I believed I was good enough I would put my dreams in motion and never look back.

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Jennifer Sage — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 17:54:45 -0000

I thought I was the only person in the world with THAT embarrassing secret: lots of book = lots of brains. Hah! I keep one bookcase now and trust my heart to be enough. So if a good new book arrives an old one goes and don't pack them in tightly. Go Danya! the truth sets you free.

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Carrie McCarthy — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 12:55:54 -0000

I have come to know that just as you are an expert in numbers there are those that are experts in life, relationships, feelings. A book I highly recommend is The Seven Principles for making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman. The Gottman Institute also offers couples weekend workshops. May you find your voice again.

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Colleen Overman — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 12:34:00 -0000

Thanks so much!! I am so inspired by the heart and soul of your business. Thanks for taking the time to personally comment. :)

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Karen — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 11:05:48 -0000

Hilma, I am with you on this one. I am very comfortable in my life, and in my choices - but it is a life I like to change up, it is part of who I am to strive for better or even just different. One place isn't better than another, just as one pair of shoes isn't better than another - they all have a time and a place and by choosing one thing, there are mental and physical repercussions. I choose to attend a party and must adhere to the dress code - otherwise we live in anarchy which would really screw with all of our ideas of "enough"

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Hilma — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 01:55:53 -0000

Oddly - I don't want to "be enough" because I think I would quit trying / striving. I would become arrogant, self centred. I probably wouldn't really have friends. Don't get me wrong - I believe that self confidence and self awareness combined with self acceptance is a powerful combination. But the danger lies in becoming complacent. I would probably become depressed and quit . . .

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Jamie — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 00:12:45 -0000

Guylaine, I hope you get the compliments and the raise both!

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Jamie — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 00:10:36 -0000

Yes! Your wild sensual self is calling. Run free, Fiona!

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Tara — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 23:06:46 -0000

Approach bigger clients for our business, without worrying what they might think - the worst they could say would be 'no'.

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Ray — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 22:28:46 -0000

I would go back into singing. I used to sing when I was younger (now I am 42), and enjoyed every minute of it. Unfortunately as is always when you are yong, our parnets have other ideas. I was told to do something that will allow you to make money and live comfortably. Well wanting to impress her, I opted for Accounting, and now I am here, and have worked in Accounting for a long time, and now I regret not staying in music.

I would stop trying to be everyone's "buddy" and just really be who I am. If I want to sit around and sleep, then I would do that. Or If I didn't like what someone said, I would tell them, instead of being tactful and not saying anything. I would be better able to express my feelings for my wife and family and not hold everything in. (this last part is waht is tearing my marriage apart, but I am too afradi to do anything because in my screwy head, I feel that If I get help, then I am crazy, need to be commited and not a good husband/father.

If I felt I were enough, I would not care about what everyone thinks and do waht I want to do. I would kick the self-loathing in the a$$ and live.

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Creative Natural — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 22:20:16 -0000

Amen to that! I am that way and I worry too much about it. I am good enough. Gold star for honesty!

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Creative Natural — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 22:15:39 -0000

Eat up Girl! Time to delve into lifes RICHEST dishes.

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Creative Natural — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 22:10:54 -0000

If I had nothing to prove and felt sufficiently sufficient I would take bolder risks. State my piece of mind LOVE who I genuinly am. (although I have made some progress.) I would embrace the feeling that being alone and having nothing to do is okay, its my time to contemplate. I would step out and make my self known and be a sucessful Professional Makeup Artist with NO INHIBITIONS and who has a true desire to make other FEEL and look beautiful. Because they are.

PS thanks for the comment on my BLOG.. :)

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Kathleen — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 21:19:07 -0000

What a great question! I feel so moved by all of your responses. I believe that on some level we do know we are enough just as we are. We've just forgotten.

This query today makes me think of a wonderful quote from Muriel Rukeyser: "What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? The world would break open."

Here's to breaking the world open! And as for me, I would stop worrying about what other people think about what I say and do.

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

L'Tanya — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 19:29:13 -0000

Have you heard of Dining for Women? They're changing the world one dinner at a time. It's such a cool idea.
www.diningforwomen.org

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Carrie McCarthy — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 19:14:30 -0000

True work full time here you come! Congrats!

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Danielle LaPorte — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 18:38:48 -0000

your comment is really moving.

Our intention is to help make REAL LIFE this supportive.

xo
Danielle

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Danielle LaPorte — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 18:36:03 -0000

suh-weet little bit of magic there!

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Danielle LaPorte — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 18:35:27 -0000

Call me, baby. I would so love to help you get your wisdom to the world.