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So perhaps, what I would have doen differently was open my heart earlier in the game to a companion. I am afraidit a tinsy winsy late.
Cécile
My whole life I've lived with someone - parents, siblings, two husbands - not at the same time - children, grandchildren and once someone else's daughter and her child. I'd like to have some time completely on my own.
I would have choosen to continue my studies in art instead of business to become a curator. I would teach art history at a great learning institution. I would then retire to my studio after work where I would paint, print, write, and throw clay. I would have a beautiful shop filled with beautiful finds and objects I've created myself. I would help adorn the lives and spaces of others.
These days, I've been feeling like it's not too late. I can do this.
*Take more risks.
*Not be so afraid of conflict.
If I thought I were enough: I'd wait for the man God sent me, instead of settling for less.
If I thought I were enough: I would speak up and speak out more. Say what I mean and not worrying about the other person's feelings more than my own. I would put myself first sometimes. I would spend more time taking care of me.
Since I am ENOUGH....I lead! I sing! I dance!
Cécile
If I felt I were enough, I would just be ME and not try to be what a guy wants me to be or thinks I am. I would not sacrifice my desire for genuine intimacy and compatibility for the fear of wanting to be loved and accepted by someone who clearly is not for me.
I plan to be freer, work on developing my inner child. Ride my bike more, swim in the ocean...and finally cut my hair! Maybe like Carrie's! A great modern cut, I might say:)
I also liked the comments about weight and body image. I think once one goes out and lives with abandon, these things in particular take care of themselves.
Rock on, sisters.
I would wear swimsuits (and go swimming - which I adore - more often!!)
I would let my legs see the light of day.
I would quit my straight-jacket-torture-chamber-of-a-job and go private practice again.
I wouldn't be afraid to be sexy,sensual,desirable,gentle,caring,feminine,afraid to show emotions, i would allow others to help me, take care of me and do for me
I would be living a life
Ha, I have one of those, too.
We talked about regrets the other day. I don't have many regrets in my life, but if I don't quit this place soon staying will be one of them.
I would live in the country and not feel that I had to be close to the city to stay cool.
I would only keep those friends whom I truly cherish instead of maintaining so many just to keep a crowd around.
I would adopt at least two children
I would spend at least six months of the year in other, less fortunate countries doing fulfilling but not necessarily lucrative work.
Refined Treasure!
So liberating!
I would listen more instead of thinking about what I just said or will say.
I would smile on the inside and stop the never-ending worrying.
I would accept myself and dress and live according to the very root of me: Natural Essence.
I would quiet all the thoughts in my head and listen intently to the voice of my heart, always telling me to stand where I live.
As for me: I would believe in dream so strongly that when I leave my job (Aug. 31st) and make my true work full-time that I actually feel liberation, passion, and joy guide me in my journey. And enjoy the thrill of believing in myself. Leaving all the crappy fears and doubts in my dust.
I had an epiphany during my divorce. I realized that there will always be someone younger than me, prettier than me, richer than me, thinner than me, funnier than me....I decided I would stop comparing myself to others, stop judging myself and choose instead to love myself just the way I was. "As Is" became my catch phrase and if someone didn't like it, they could simply move on. I know I'm not perfect. I'm a work in progress and sometimes I stumble.
I realize that if I don't treat myself with dignity, kindness, and respect, who will?
I learned that it's not important for me to trust the other person not to hurt me in a relationship. It's more important for me to trust myself, knowing that I will be able to handle whatever they do.
I choose to give people the benefit of the doubt and to love fully and with all my heart. That means, my heart does get broken, but I'd rather risk a broken heart than a soul gone dead from living in darkness.
If someone doesn't like me. I'm okay with that. It's just one person's opinion. As long as I'm true to myself and live as authentically as I can, I know I'll do alright.
I'm learning to use my voice and speak up more.
Much love to all of you!
Carolynn
~Ramona
Host Sunday evening drop-in parties.
Retire the inner critic who ties my tongue so tightly that I stutter and forget words when meeting new people.
Host the etiquette classes that friends keep suggesting, bringing my own quirky and light hearted approach to the subject.
Turn off the TV (stop living vicariously!), answer emails and calls from prospective friends, get out there and connect! So scary to even write that.
Life truly is a banquet, time to stop starving myself!
~Ramona
That's it!! I began this journey of self-love / self-acceptance / womanhood by treating myself the way that I wished people would treat me. Initially, I thought if I improved the way I treated others then my actions would cause people to be more gentle/compassionate/loving toward me; however, I discovered that the key was to shower myself with compassion/love/gentleness, and the others would follow.
It is working!!! Thanks for your honesty.
Infinite Grace.
~Ramona
~Ramona
I have one book case in the studio of books - they are my gems that I like to revisit and talk with once and a while. I now give books away freely - and every time I give one of my books away, I think to myself, "if I need this book again, the money will be there for me to buy it." Ultimately, I've learned to TRUST MY RESOURCES - my mind, my wisdom, my money, my love. And voila...trusting inner resource often translates to simplified outer resources.
xo
Danielle
Our intention is to help make REAL LIFE this supportive.
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Danielle
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This query today makes me think of a wonderful quote from Muriel Rukeyser: "What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? The world would break open."
Here's to breaking the world open! And as for me, I would stop worrying about what other people think about what I say and do.
PS thanks for the comment on my BLOG.. :)
I would stop trying to be everyone's "buddy" and just really be who I am. If I want to sit around and sleep, then I would do that. Or If I didn't like what someone said, I would tell them, instead of being tactful and not saying anything. I would be better able to express my feelings for my wife and family and not hold everything in. (this last part is waht is tearing my marriage apart, but I am too afradi to do anything because in my screwy head, I feel that If I get help, then I am crazy, need to be commited and not a good husband/father.
If I felt I were enough, I would not care about what everyone thinks and do waht I want to do. I would kick the self-loathing in the a$$ and live.
Taking the chance when I have it. I usually hesitate and my immediate reaction is usually to say no but I'm working on it. The power of yes is truly amazing. I have already been across the country and back and I am always amazed by the interesting people I meet when I am willing to initiate a conversation that has the potential to be awkward, but then, isn't.