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Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Tao — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 14:53:04 -0000

I feel peaceful. There is no more debate and chatter in my head. Just because it is a right decision does not make it easy. It takes time. It takes faith and courage to stick to it.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

liz strand — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 17:01:53 -0000

I have a feeling of contentment, comfort, and peace. It takes me awhile to "know" but the big things in life need time to throw in all the ingredients, stir them up, and come out with the best decision and live with it. A wrong decision still makes me restless, curious, and unsettled.

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PastorMJ — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 16:41:45 -0000

I breathe deeply when I experience 'the right choice'. Even when it is a difficult one, I have a moment of peace that touces my soul. It is a snapshot of the path I am on at the moment.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Danielle LaPorte — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 23:03:16 -0000

you're pointing to a great distinction: physical, primal fear and over riding it. I just got back from Hawaii where I jumped off a 20 foot cliff into a waterfall pool (I'm in AWE of you sky divers - I'm never, ever going skydiving.) It was a major deal for me because, really, I'm a feline and cats are bad swimmers. My muscles were freaked...but I still felt that quietness that said, "you're going to live." I also did a fire walk once. Same thing.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Danielle LaPorte — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:58:35 -0000

well here's a semi-confession...I KNOW when a decision is right and I'm clearly clear on that feeling, but I am really comfortable changing my mind - not often, I tend to stick to my word. But I'm always thinking, "it's it's NOT right...I'll try something else."

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Danielle LaPorte — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:54:07 -0000

Ahhh! Congratulations. Always good to have another set of ears involved in crafting your Style Statement.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Jennifer Sage — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:19:55 -0000

I believe Edward de Bono has some interesting things to say about differing ways of getting to decisions.

And I am remeinded about a quite old bit of Beyond the Fringe in the days when all out Thermo nucelar war seemed to be possible. Goes like this
Interviewer: How is the decision made? (To press the button unleashing the bombs)
Answer: We ask Mr McMillan (The then Brit PM)
Interviewer: What if Mr Mc Millan isn't available?
Answer: Oh that quite simple We ask Lady Dorothy (PMs wife) and she says Yes or No as the mood takes her.
I guess my decsions only affect a very few people and my credit card.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:09:33 -0000

That's beautiful. I'm tempted to hear what you've gathered about other starsigns...

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Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:05:56 -0000

Jennifer, are you a Bold? You've really got a brilliant way of getting to the point.

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Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:04:48 -0000

Oh, Keiko, that's SO true! Often the biggest, most personally "scary" choice is the best one. Not necessarily stupid, but amazing and frightening in the sense that it puts your soul right out there. Very Style Statement.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:03:17 -0000

This reminds me of a conversation I remember occurring on Q&A about how your heart can still skip a beat after years of marriage. Being in tune is so very important.

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Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:01:38 -0000

Feminine Creative and Genuine Spirited? You sound like an amazing pair of friends! That's magnificent. It must've been a memorable evening.

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Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:00:15 -0000

Zen sparks? How gorgeous!

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Jennifer Sage — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 20:21:23 -0000

Tamara, The gift that the universe gives us is learning. And also how hard it is for us to simply say I'm sorry. Forgiving ourselves is big grown up stuff too.
I gain great comfort in knowing that for some significant decisions are just the biggest struggle. Jesus in the Garden of Gesthemene comes to mind. All his so human guts were telling him to walk away and he did not

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Tamara — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 19:48:12 -0000

I've done this and it really does work. Your reaction to how that coin lands speaks volumes

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Tamara — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 19:45:48 -0000

Thank you, Dena! I was reading the long list of wonderful responses feeling envious of all these people who have an answer. I don't know when a decision is right until after I've made it and it turns out okay. Sometimes it seems to turn out "wrong" but then shows itself to be positive in some way. But I know my answer today is colored by the fact that I am struggling with the aftermath of a decision that seemed so right at the time, but now has taken a turn for the maybe-I-shouldn't-have. The thing I have to hold on to is faith that, whatever the decision, something good will come out of it. I don't decide based on intuition (wish I did). I make my choices in faith.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Marie Leona — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 19:40:07 -0000

It's a plethora of things... clear mind, strong gut feeling, calm, ease, intuition feels energized, things seem to be just so.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Tamara — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 19:39:19 -0000

Oh, Jennifer, you have it exactly right! I love Danielle's metaphor, but you have hit it exactly on the head about how it works for us Librans. So many lovely things to choose from. So many good choices that THE good choice seems terribly elusive.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Scott — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 19:09:36 -0000

when I come to the right decision I can breath really easily.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Jane — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 18:49:53 -0000

I once read that when you have a decision to make that is difficult, consider if it will matter in 5 days, 5 months and 5 years. Sometime, when I get that "fear" that Linda mentioned as coming with a growth decision, its because the comfortable decision is for now, but the challenging one is the one i'll be greatful for in 5 years time.

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Betty Ann — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 17:43:54 -0000

when the decision that you made and all that would go along with it falls into place.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Ruth R. — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 16:33:48 -0000

This is a difficult question for me because stepping out of my comfort zone goes against my intuition. For instance, I recently went sky diving...everything inside me screamed "NO!" But Girl-Woman made a good point about Zen; when heart meets logical mind and everything is balanced, I know I can go ahead.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Jennifer Sage — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:28:56 -0000

connie look at my posting 2 above yours

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Jennifer Sage — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:27:15 -0000

People like you need to run the country.
Some ghastly wars have happened because some politician felt it was the right thing do do.
What is right for an individual now may very well be wrong for their children and their husband and in reality themselves in the long term.
The Aids epidemic spread because of a series of decsions all of which felt right and good at the time.
When a decsion is made intuitivly (and I have great faith in intuition) the quality of the outworking of that decsion will be affected by the character of the individual making it and at least as important the circumstances in which the decision was made.
Think about the Titanic.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Connie — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:20:16 -0000

Unlike Carrie and Danielle, my making decisions is never as clear nor quiet nor finished. I make decisions that leave wiggle room because I know how quickly things can change and how I need to be flexible.