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Re: Give ‘Em A Break: Everyday Love and Assumptions

Brazilian Swimsuits — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 12:40:48 -0000

I love this. I personally would rather assume something "else" is bothering them. This certainly keeps me from wondering if it's personally directed toward me.

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TourTravelChina — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 01:42:11 -0000

That Sounds interesting, I agree with you.Please keep at your good work, I would come back often.

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tourtrav — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 09:05:21 -0000

Great post, what you said is really helpful to me. I can't agree with

you anymore. I have been talking with my friend about, he though it is

really interesting as well. Keep up with your good work, I would come

back to you.

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liliane — Tue, 19 May 2009 13:14:05 -0000

This is so true and simple and it could change that persons mood and in the meantime you did not react like them ,i am gonna remember that next time i see someone who is rude or mean to someone .....like boedha says be as kind to the others like you want them to be with you.....

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freestyles — Wed, 06 May 2009 16:19:16 -0000

I am totally with you on this Kathleen, it's indeed wise and compassionate approach that Danielle has.

Emma

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How_Much_Should_I_Weight — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:02:45 -0000

It´s great when you can learn from the net thaks for sharing this :-)

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Zai — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 12:18:05 -0000

I love that!! Thanks :)

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Maggie — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 14:39:55 -0000

Great thought. I use it daily since reading it here.

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Hiram — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 00:14:58 -0000

Perhaps someone will return the sentment someday,wont you be suprised?

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Ruth — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 14:45:22 -0000

Fantastic mantra. When I'm having a rough time, I know I'm not always the friendliest person. I may be short with people or withdrawn.

I'm going to try it on my commute this coming week. What with the economy, I'm sure that most of my fellow commuters are concerned about their jobs, if nothing else. Rushing to get onto or off of the train, walking slowly because they're suffering from depression or are tired after pushing themselves extra hard, it could really cover anything too.

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leona — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 04:37:47 -0000

Thank you for this marvellously simple and humane post. Presumption about others according to how they look, speak, move is simply a projection of part of ourselves. We do not know and being at the edge of not knowing, while disconcerting, is like standing on the edge of a vast ocean or overlooking a great desert. Who knows what lies there?

This curiousity is just as valuable for those we think we know well too. For those we know we project our past experiences, our beliefs and judgements.

How empowering to "not know".

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whocares — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 03:17:28 -0000

Having a bad day does not give you the right to treat others like crap. Get over it. You're not the only person with troubles.

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love relationships — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 20:07:15 -0000

I agree and wish more people would do the same. I have also been in need of this reminder a few times. Thank you for reminding me.

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Lisa — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 18:40:19 -0000

I have a piece of paper I carry in my wallet at all times that reads
"be kind, for everyone is carrying a heavy burden"
I can't remember the source of the quote, I've had it for years. I keep forgetting, and then I go to my wallet and go, "oh yeah!"
I like your mantra even better tho - it's short and sweet and easy to keep in mind.
Thanks

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Gina R. — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 08:48:18 -0000

Thank you, Danielle, for sharing this with the world

And thank you, Mom & Dad, for raising me with this mantra.

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LuLu — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 17:43:58 -0000

So true, i have been using this assumption when im having bad day and someone is insistently trying to say "Hi" to me.I

Great post.
Thanks for it.

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brigid — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 15:21:09 -0000

your mantra " I don’t know what you’re going through ", it is undone because you used a negative word. "don't". So by saying that mantra over and over is that " I don’t know what you’re going through"

My point is that you need to be completely positive or ekse it has the opposite effect that you wanted. Instead say something like "you have a different story than my own".

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ArielBravy — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 03:15:19 -0000

This is such a wonderful mantra. Every person you see is like a whole 'nother Universe happening. There's a whole world inside each and all of us. We're all human with our own lives going on and it's so wonderful to actually acknowledge this. Thank you for reminding us about all of this. :)

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Pandora — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 21:48:49 -0000

This is a great mantra to remember. I'm a full-time retail manager, and this is actually one of the things that I tell all of my employees to think about when they deal with customers. Just being nice makes all the difference

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Justin — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 04:02:54 -0000

I agree and wish more people would do the same. I have also been in need of this reminder a few times. Thank you for reminding me.

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catherinebehan — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 20:35:01 -0000

Nice post. Very thought provoking and a good reminder that compassion is always an appropriate choice.

Thanks

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Orchidius — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 13:20:15 -0000

Amazing. I'll definitely try out that one. Besides you actually don't know what one is going through, it surely helps yourself to keep balanced.

Thanks for that.

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hj — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 12:00:45 -0000

perhaps they are deaf? or totally lost in thought that they literally don't even realize that they have just passed a human being? and if not, let's say it is some punk kid...i still think the mantra applies...they definitely have to be going through something to be so rude...

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hj — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 11:58:41 -0000

great mantra...thanks...i try to remind myself that it's not about me, i did nothing wrong (tells you what my issues are, huh? ;)
i am not responsible for the happiness of others kind of thing...

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Mike At — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 11:38:47 -0000

With this mantra i can forgive the "races ahead of me in traffic," and maybe ignore the "butts in front of me in line," even though that's annoying. But the "doesn’t return my “hello” when passing by," that's just rude- especially if eye contact was made. Just because you're going through something, doesn't mean you stop with the common decencies.