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Could You Be Happy Either Way?: Letting Go of Getting What You Want

Started by Daniel Gibbons · 9 months ago

What if your happiness does not depend on getting what you want?
This is a radical notion, so it bears repeating:
What… if… your happiness does not depend on getting what you want?
Speaking for both Carrie and myself, I can tell you, we are in constant pursu ... Continue reading »

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SRead
9 months ago

Beautifully stated, Danielle. I sometimes remind myself that adjusting my expectations and letting go to see how it feels creates the space for acceptance, contentment and yes, happiness.

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MichelleB
9 months ago

Wow...without even knowing it, I faced this and found that not only was my happiness still there, but it was richer and deeper when I LET GO and stopped trying to control my life into what I "wanted". Beautiful, really.

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DanielleLaPorte
9 months ago

yes, I think one could call that...grace.
xo
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MoJo
9 months ago

Thanks for that reminder Danielle. What drives me batty is how I so often forget it! So true...

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Carolynn
9 months ago

For me, I think this manifests as being fully present in the moment. Not in the past and not in the future. Rather to allow myself to experience everything as it unfolds, without judgment, and just Be.

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Pearl Mattenson
9 months ago

At first I was feeling so virtuous thinking, I am not really that into wanting "stuff" so of course I can connect to that happiness. But then I realized how many "ethereal" things I want- I want peace and calm, I want space, I want to see my chidlren grow up...And could I let go of those things and still be happy? Wow, feels like there are some hard places to look. Thanks for the question!

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DanielleLaPorte
9 months ago

I felt the same way re: hard places to look. Good 'n hard.

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Suzyn
9 months ago

This actually makes a lot of sense to me - it seems that happiness is not affected much by what you have or get. People seem to have a personal happiness level that they return to again and again. I have a friend who is REALLY GOOD at getting what she wants. She's also really good at griping, and I'm constantly amazed that, no matter what amazement falls in her lap, she quickly finds something new to gripe about.

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DanielleLaPorte
9 months ago

I wonder if willfulness and complaining are related. I'm going to ruminate on that one. (So nice to see your picture!)

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Brenda
9 months ago

thank you for that. I will try to ask myself this everyday especially during times when I feel my life is chaotic.

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storyteller
9 months ago

thank you Danielle for giving me permission, in a way, to consider my despair. There is despair when leaving an old way of thinking and coming forward to the way I know and yet forget, the best way...the letting go way. Beautiful.

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