DISQUS

jenny, bloggess · 1 year ago

Gorgeous picture! Love yourself is such a hard thing to do...

pearl_mattenson · 1 year ago

Actually photo isn't me but it is nice isn't it-let the photographers know (see link above) And yes- hard to do and in the end, so worth it...

EcoDiva · 1 year ago

Great piece. I think about this over the years as I shift and change with my life situation. It is a freedom to embrace every part of yourself and let it really sing.

Albert Lee · 1 year ago

This is tough, but the reward is huge! But do prepare for some pleasant surprises, when the people said qualities of you that you never expected to hear or even believed!

The most important part of this exercise is to ask people that you really really respect, not your casual friends.. and ask for positive qualities!

pearl_mattenson · 1 year ago

Yes I agree-asking people you respect is important. - have you done this? what were your surprises?

Suzyn · 1 year ago

This sounds eerily familiar. I'm the one who can fit into any situation. But I think that my style statement is actually helping there. Instead of thinking "What is appropriate to the situation?" I'm starting to think "What is the Creative Joy approach here?"
Oh, and I have a nasty corollary habit of discounting the nice things people do say about me. Gotta stop that!

pearl_mattenson · 1 year ago

That is a case for a style statement if I ever heard one.
I am embarrased to say I don't have one yet. I have to get cracking on that...

Jess · 1 year ago

I love this post! At 22, I'm beginning to really honour what makes me so different - all the facets of my personality - good AND bad.
Doing my Style Statement really helped because it let me see that - yes, THIS is what I care about and it's okay to...I may love magazines, getting dressed up, clothes, and seemingly "silly" pursuits like those, BUT I'm also an amazing friend and advocate for women.
Thanks for sharing your story!

Danette · 1 year ago

Great post Pearl.

DanielleLaPorte · 1 year ago

beautiful, Pearl.

Goddess Leonie Creative Goddes · 1 year ago

Such beautiful words & picture...
Thank you deeply for sharing :)
Wishing you a divine day ~
Brightest blessings,
Leonie
www.GoddessLeonie.com

JoAnn · 1 year ago

In the past decade or so, I began to define myself as a chameleon......all of what you write fits me as well! At times it is a good quality especially when in what can be a challenging situation, but as you write, it can lead to feeling no sense of who I am........which matters more at some times than others. Less and less do I choose to "lose" me to please others, but it is still in there. I want to examine further this franchise that we have all bought into! Or at least visited.